Perhaps some of the most challenging relationships we have in our lives are those with our own parents. Although we love them deeply, they are oftentimes the ones who present the most “issues” in our worlds and who tend to drive us the most batty. You feel me? I’ve worked with many students and clients who have the hardest time figuring out if they should sever a relationship with a parent, try to work on it, try to establish boundaries, or just give up on the whole thing altogether.
Maybe you have found yourself tolerating shitty behavior from a parent because they had a horrible upbringing themselves or you’ve bought into the notion that “blood is thicker than water” so you let them get away with things you would never allow from someone you weren’t related to. We tend to emotionally regress around our parents which leaves us feeling inadequate, cowardly, and helpless.
This sort of parental frustration is suuuuuper common and I’m sure you’re no stranger to a similar dynamic. In this episode, I offer seven concepts to help you address a parent who is actually kind of an asshole and/or you aren’t fully sure you want in your life any longer. Unless you have a super flawless relationship with your parents (and if you do, bless you, and go thank them RIGHT NOW), then this pod is a MUST. Plus, many of these concepts can be applied to other challenging relationships in your life.
This pod explores:
Understanding the multiple emotions you have around your parents and why that’s okay
How to figure out the role you want a less-than-stellar parent to have in your life
What to say if other family members want to get involved and ask you about the issue
How to figure out exactly what you need from your parent and how to ask for it (and when not to)
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It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has all that shit been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? Doors are now open for an exclusive, group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes a 5-day, luxury retreat! Hello!
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We’ve all heard of our inner child, right? That wounded inner child who is still reckoning with incidents occurring in our childhood. But, have you ever heard of your “outer child”? Tell me if this sounds familiar: You are going back home to visit your family and the minute you get around your parents, it’s like you’re 16 all over again. You’re angsty, everything is unfair, and you just want to burn incense and listen to music, yet hanging out with your fam makes you want to lash out and yell and scream and maybe break a lava lamp. And suddenly all of the coping mechanisms you’ve learned in decades of therapy are out the window. This, my friend, is your Outer Child. It’s a way in which we regress to earlier versions of ourselves and act out from that place when surrounded by triggering people. And, let’s face it, it’s often our family.
In this week’s episode, I dial up Alexa Rae Schiefer, Trauma Coach and former mental health clinician, to ask her some heavy-hitting questions around the trauma we incur from our primary caregivers. We dig into the concept of “Parentification Trauma”, the inner and outer child, what trauma responses tend to look like, and what the hell a Window of Tolerance is and why we should be aware of it.
Alexa Rae and I also discuss what it means to self-soothe and how that process can vary depending on what trauma you are up against. We chat about processing the trauma of our childhoods and how, more often than not, we are trying to pretend we don’t have any trauma. Yeah, ok. How’s that working out? We even talk about what-the-hell trauma even is. If you know you’ve got a wound, or two, or twenty, to process from your childhood, be sure to grab a pen and paper. This is a good one.
This pod explores:
The definition of trauma and how we all pretty much have it
Understanding Parentification Trauma and how that influences your behavior later on in life
What common trauma responses look like and what you can do about them
Understanding Abandonment Wounds and how they show up in our lives
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Alexa Rae (she/her) is known online as the “Authenticity Healer” and woman who decided to shake up the healing game in mental health. Her full first name is Alexa Rae and she used to go by Alexa until Amazon stole her name. Now she goes by “Alexa Rae” or “A. Rae” for short. She is living her purpose on earth to help as many women as possible connect to their authentic selves. She is renowned for her ability to deeply connect with women, help them see their worth, and for being a down-to-earth healer.
In her former life, Alexa Rae was a professional mental health clinician who worked in a variety of areas – acute mental health, trauma, forensics, eating disorders, adolescents, education, and more. She left this realm as she struggled working in a field full of gaps in healing and wanted to shake up the mental health game. Since quitting her career to follow her purpose, she has gone on to help hundreds of women reconnect with who they are meant to be on this planet and heal the relationship with themselves and their bodies.
Alexa Rae has traveled the country speaking to women at various events, is a part-time professor in a mental health and substance use graduate program where she educates the up and coming clinicians to approach mental health differently, and runs a podcast called “Authentically You.”
Iwish I had a dollar for every time someone told me something that happened in their childhood that cleeeeearly still affects them and then they say something like, “But, I’m totally over it though. It’s not that big of a deal.” Sure, sure it’s not. I would have, like, so many dollars. Here’s the deal: We never root for our trauma. We never really like the idea that something damaging happened to us in our youth. Or that we still carry around some disempowering beliefs bestowed to us by our primary caregivers. It’s much easier to dismiss the pain and say everything is just fine. Nothing to see here! Look away!
The problem is that we are ALL affected by the things that happen to us in our childhood. And the subconscious part of our brain keeps tally of all of it. But just like the moniker implies, it’s all running beneath our consciousness. Ever wonder why you constantly feel the need to please others even though you know it’s impeding your work or your relationships? It’s likely you developed a positive association with people-pleasing early in your life and now it’s embedded in the subconscious part of your mind.
In this episode, I dig into the way our conscious and subconscious minds work and how they relate to the various traumas we experience. I also discuss the biggest fallacy about trauma that most folks still believe to be true and I share my favorite journaling tool to start unpacking how certain instances from your childhood crafted your current reality. Get ready to have a deeper understanding about how the subconscious works and how you can take some powerful steps toward healing.
This pod explores:
How to put the inner critic, or “subconscious guard dog” to sleep, so you can change your deep-seated beliefs
Three types of trauma and why it’s more important how an incident affected you rather than the incident itself
My favorite journal exercise to uncover how certain instances from your childhood are currently impacting you
What support looks like for dealing with familial trauma
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It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has all that shit been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? Doors are now open for an exclusive, group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes a 5-day, luxury retreat! Hello!
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Iused to flippantly refer to myself as a Perfectionist and oftentimes I would elude to it being somewhat of a badge of honor. As I got older and my anxiety increased, I realized that being a chronic perfectionist was actually STEALING my joy instead of making my job easier. But, how does one just stop being a perfectionist?
Perhaps you find yourself in the same boat; Vacillating between being SOLD on the idea that everything has to be just perfect and the conflicting desire to let things “go with the flow” or just be “good enough”. If you’ve found yourself in this dance, you are most certainly not alone. In this week’s episode, I break down just how detrimental the strive for perfection can be and how it often leads to much suffering, frustration, and angst.
Additionally, I dig into 5, easy-to-implement steps you can take to begin allowing room for your humanity without sacrificing excellence and how you can maintain your integrity AND your sanity.
This pod explores:
Why “Perfect” doesn’t really exist and how the pursuit of perfection can be #supes detrimental
How to figure out the personal “Rules” you’ve established for yourself that have locked you into perfectionism
My favorite tool to catch and re-route your perfectionism in the moment (without overthinking it to death)
How to allow room for excellence and integrity in what you do, without the “pressure of perfect”
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It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has all that shit been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? I’m about to open the doors for an exclusive, group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes a 5-day, luxury retreat! Hello!
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So, you’re stuck. Not moving. Not taking much action. You know all the things you should be doing to get where you wanna go, yet you don’t actually do it. Or maybe you have no idea what you want to do and that is leaving you feeling stuck as fuck. (Side note: I feel like there should be a glue or tape company called “Stuck as Fuck”)
And, it’s likely if you’re feeling stuck, there are a shit-ton of other things you may be feeling too. Maybe you feel some fear about starting a new career path. Maybe you feel overwhelmed from your current roles as partner, parent, employee, friend, etc. Maybe you feel anxious about getting back in the dating scene. And, then your behaviors follow suit. You’re scared to switch careers, so you procrastinate. You’re overwhelmed in your current roles, but you still people-please, adding to your overwhelm. You’re anxious about dating, so you obsess over being perfect before posting your online profile. Stuck af, rinse, repeat.
Gah! So, what is one to do? This week on the show, I dial up my pal Britt Frank, a psychotherapist and trauma specialist who recently penned an amazing book entitled, The Science of Stuck. Add to cart, amiright!? In this uber-packed interview we discuss all the “parts” that make up our personality (aka when your inner child throws a tantrum), how anxiety is not something that “attacks” you but is actually a message about your safety, and Britt’s fav 5-minute challenge to help you bust through your stuckness. Get ready to wear a hole in this episode, because it’s a good one.
This pod explores:
The difference between anxiety, fear, and worry and how to work with each of them
Understanding “Emotional Regression” – aka When you immediately revert back to being 16 when you’re around your Mom
Understanding what is really happening when you’re procrastinating and why that may be exactly what you need to be doing
How Britt’s phobia of sponges (yes, like, kitchen sponges) was related to unresolved sexual trauma and what she did to heal
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It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has all that shit been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? I’m about to open the doors for an exclusive, group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes a 5-day, luxury retreat! Hello!
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Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a clinician, educator and trauma specialist. She speaks and writes widely about the mental health myths that keep us stuck and stressed. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. She is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Level 3 trained in the Internal Family Systems therapeutic model. Her first book The Science of Stuck was released March 2022 and is available now.
Recently a listener wrote into the show, asking what to do when you find yourself feeling stuck. You know that racket, no? Stuck in a relationship… stuck in a soul-sucking job… stuck in a friendship that doesn’t serve you. The list goes on. Perhaps you know exactly what you want, but you feel stuck in taking any action. Or maybe you have no idea what you want and that is leaving you feeling stagnant and unmotivated.
Many times, when we feel “stuck”, we look outside ourselves for the magic answer instead of addressing things that are totally within our power. Without knowing it, we fall into patterns and habits that ultimately leave us feeling complacent and we forget to take action on the things that we already know bring us joy. Like, getting back to that knitting project you loved. Or picking up your guitar again. Whatever… you get the picture.
In this episode, I dig into ten different strategies and questions you can ask yourself to break out of your stuck-ness in order to create much more happiness and fulfillment. You may actually be super surprised how easy it can be!
This pod explores:
What to say to yourself instead of “I don’t know how to…”
How to break up the monotony of your habits and switch shit up, creating much more momentum and movement
How to clear out the clutter in your world that is unknowingly keeping you stuck-as-fuck
Why you must create a plan if you want to change your current situation
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It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has all that shit been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? I’m about to open the doors for an exclusive, group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes a 5-day, luxury retreat! Hello!
Want in? Of course you do. Clickety clickRIGHT HERE or click the fancy image to get on the VIP list and be the first to be notified when the application window is open for WORTHY.
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If you’re anything like me, you probably love having a nice plan for your life… Some nice stability, order, structure… some might even say you’ve got a tight grip on control. [guilty face] I know that space quite well. But, what happens when your solidly formed plans get thwarted by something you could never have seen coming? How do you allow room for grief that your life is going in a totally different direction and still hold on to what matters most to you? How do you take care of yourself when you suddenly have to find a new home? Or recieve a scary diagnosis? Experience a death in the family? Learn your partner wants a divorce?
My dear friend, Michelle Ward, knows a thing or two or twenty about dealing with massive life curveballs. In 2011, she was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer in the midst of fertility treatment for the child she and her husband were desperately trying to conceive. Not only was she dealing with the new realization that having a baby would not at all be as easy as they had planned, but now that dream had to come to a screeching halt as she navigated this life-altering diagnosis. And, the curveballs kept coming. After going into remission, she was diagnosed with breast cancer AGAIN. I mean… how do you not just shake your fists at the Universe like, “WTF, lady!?”
In this week’s show, Michelle and I have a candid conversation about what it looks like to reckon with new information that sends your world into a tailspin. We discuss the strategies she employed to cope, who was (and was not) a good person to lean on, and what it was like working through grief that took many different forms. If you feel like you can’t catch a break, you’ll want to tune and find out how to focus on the things you CAN control, even if that list feels like it’s rapidly shrinking. And, believe me when I say, you are most certainly not alone.
This pod explores:
How Michelle wrote a bunch of songs on her ukulele to help her process her diagnosis and what you can do to process the curveballs you’re up against (One song was comically called “Everyone’s Your Friend When You Have Cancer”)
What to do when folks in your life think you’re done with your difficult chapter (ie. divorce is final, cancer in remission, etc.) and you are still racked with grief
How to know who you can trust with your story and who to stay away from
Understanding that there will likely be moments when you need to take the low road just to survive
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Michelle Ward helps women launch their service-based business in just 90 days so they can be their own damn boss. You may have seen or heard her in New York Magazine, NY Post, The Huffington Post, Etsy, Newsweek, Freelancers Union, USA Today, the Forbes Top 100 Websites for your Career list, EO Fire, Real Talk Radio, The Unmistakable Creative or hundreds of other media outlets. She’s the teacher of Create Your Dream Career and Ditch Your Day Job, which were watched by tens of thousands of people on CreativeLive. When she’s not coaching, teaching or speaking, she can be found watching her daughter play hockey, sitcom-binging with her husband, or belting out show tunes.
Losing a job. Getting a tough diagnosis. Kids moving out of the house. Starting a business. Becoming a parent. All of these are examples of life transitions that can completely sideswipe us with emotion. Sometimes you intentionally plan for a transition, like moving to another country or changing careers, and other times, you may get forced into a life pivot out of nowhere leaving you floundering and reeling.
What is it about transition that makes it so difficult? Why is it that you still feel grief and sadness leaving a job when you’re starting a new business and are really excited for the opportunity? How can you keep your mind from spinning and “what-if-ing” all damn day? Even though life transitions are incredibly common, it seems no one has penned a nice instruction manual for how-the-hell to deal with such a situation.
In this week’s episode, I look at six, specific tactics you can take to better address a transitional period you may be going through. We’ll look at the role of grief (and what that really means), how change can affect your personal sense of identity, and how to find your core comforts and support systems during this uncertain time. If you have been feeling wobbly about all of your current “unknowns”, you’ll find many tidbits of wisdom in this episode to help you process this journey much more powerfully.
This pod explores:
My favorite two thought reframes to aid you if life handed you a curveball
How to figure out who you *are* outside of your immediate circumstances
The best tactic to immediately bring yourself comfort during an uncertain time
Knowing who (and who NOT) to share your process with as you navigate your transition
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Dealing with a major life transition can be one of the most emotionally taxing and exhausting things we go through as humans. Not to mention that our society doesn’t look fondly on processing emotion and expects you to “put on a happy face” because “the show must go on”. Sometimes we’re working through an intentional life transition, like choosing to start your own business, and other times we get nailed with a life pivot out of nowhere. As in, your partner abruptly leaves the relationship, or you’re dealing with a devastating diagnosis or processing the death of a loved one.
No matter where you fall on the “pivot continuum”, it is likely that you will have a slew of emotions to navigate. So, where do you start? Is there a rubric or framework to follow? Some box you can check that states “You have successfully navigated this transition”? Hardly. This week on the show, I dial up Deb Cummins Stellato, a life and leadership coach who supports successful women seeking the courage to make pivots.
In this juicy conversation, Deb and I look at the role courage plays in all our life transitions whether you are pivoting to a new job or dealing with a traumatic illness. We discuss the major characteristics of thinking courageously, and the steps you can take to set yourself up for success if you’re processing a life pivot. We look at creating a safe community for yourself, leaning into accepting help (gah!), and what it means to listen to your intuition.
This pod explores:
The major characteristics of women who think courageously as they deal with life pivots
The difference between navigating an intentional transition (Ie. choosing to leave a job) versus dealing with a major life curveball (Ie. a sudden death or diagnosis)
Deb’s definition of a life pivot and understanding where you may fall on the continuum
Deb’s favorite vocabulary tool to switch up how you’ve been viewing your current transition
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Deb is a certified life and leadership coach who supports successful women seeking the courage to make pivots. Cultivator of Communities, Deb facilitates courageous conversations with women through group coaching and online communities. She is the host of The Think Courageously Podcast and as a podcaster, she has interviewed over 100 women on what it means to redefine success, courage and pivots. In April 0f 2022, Deb became an Amazon Best-Selling author with 14 other women in the book Elevate Your Voice. Her chapter focuses on her 364-day grief journey and is entitled “Living and Grieving with Courage”.
Ever wonder what it really takes to maintain happiness in a long-term relationship? I mean… don’t passions just naturally fizzle and fade for every couple? Aren’t happy couples just for fairy tales and movie magic?
Think about it… It’s HIGHLY likely you know very few couples who have been together for a long period of time who actually still really like each other. I believe there is a reason for that. For many of us, there has never been a handy manual on how-the-hell to communicate, get your needs met, or work on vulnerability. Amiright? Most of what we learn is from whatever example we received from our parents (ugh!), our media, or our life experience which often leave us floundering inside relationships wondering what-the-hell our problem is
Bottom line: It’s totally possible to have a long-term, happy relationship. You just need to know HOW. It’s likely you’ve simply never been taught. In this episode (part 2 of 2), Mr. Smith and I dig into 4 more components we’ve employed in our marriage to keep us connected, thriving, and happy. And guess what? It’s not rocket science, only for the “lucky” ones, or involving tons of time and money. Chances are you can do things TODAY that can radically change the dynamic of your relationship.
This pod explores:
How those walls you have built up are doing nothing for your intimacy
What it really looks like to communicate effectively with your partner
How we (Mr. Smith and I) have unconventionally approached the management of our household and why it creates so much harmony for us
How to create shared meaning through traditions and rituals
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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
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