[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#429 – Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Communication with Dr. Shyamala Kiru

Feb 6, 2022

Tell me if you can relate: Your partner does something that royally pisses you off, but when you address it, you blow a gasket and things seem to get worse. Or maybe you’re so overwhelmed and stressed at work but can’t find the words to share that with your boss. Or possibly your sister embarrassed you in front of your whole family, but instead of dealing with it, you sweep it under the rug and resentment builds and builds. 

Do you happen to notice the correlations in all these scenarios? They are one part “Emotions” and one part “Communication”. We don’t often take the time to dissect what we are actually feeling and how that impacts the way we communicate in our relationships. But think about any of these situations without the emotional element. If you weren’t so angry at your partner, would you have communicated that way? If you weren’t so embarrassed, how would your communication have changed? How we communicate with others is directly related to what we are feeling emotionally.

This week on the show, I dial up Dr. Shyamala Kiru who is an ex-therapist turned relationship and leadership coach (and totally badass) who literally wrote the book on navigating emotional intelligence as women. Dr. Shyamala and I discuss the influence of our family of origin on our ability to name and regulate our emotions, how fear shows up for all of us, and what communication pitfalls we often fall into, arresting our ability for rich connection. When I say this conversation is packed, it’s fucking packed. Packed with some serious fodder to help you uplevel your communication and in turn, your relationship fulfillment. Get some.

This pod explores:

  • Why working on emotional intelligence is even worth the effort (Hint: It soooo is)
  • Understanding “Communication Culprits” and how you may be unknowingly sabotaging getting your needs met
  • Dr. Shyamala’s “3 Pillars of Success” – a specific formula for understanding your own emotions leading to richer relationships (yes, please!)
  • The four emotional traps that we often fall into when navigating relationships and what we can do about them



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Dr. Shyamala is an ex-therapist turned Leadership + Relationship Expert with 20 years experience in advanced communication, relationship management and leadership training for high-powered women.

She is the founder of The EQ Code, a global coaching company designed for women who are ready to master their emotions, communicate fearlessly and lead with confidence, so they can execute on their mission at a whole new level.

While she no longer practices Psychotherapy, she is the founder of the Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic, a virtual mental health practice serving Canada, and has served on the Board of Directors for the Ontario Association for Marriage & Family Therapy.

As a speaker, Dr. Shyamala provides keynote speeches on a local, national and international scale. As a media expert, she’s appeared on a national television show for nearly a decade and makes guest appearances on CTV, CP24 as well as frequent pieces of print media. You can also catch her wisdom on her podcast, Confessions of an Ex- Therapist.

Most importantly, she is the Partner in Crime to her adored husband and the Chief Inspiring Officer to her incredible daughter. 

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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?

It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.


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