How many times have you silenced yourself from expressing how you truly feel to someone because you fear coming across as needy? Maybe you worry what your partner may say if you find yourself needing more alone time. Or perhaps you think your over-achieving sister will slam you in front of the fam and call you lazy if you take the time you truly need to rest and recharge. Like, god-forbid you actually honor the fact that literally every human being has needs.
Not to mention we have a massive patriarchal narrative that reserves “neediness” largely for those identifying as women… and not necessarily in a good way. Perhaps you’ve been told, “You’re so emotional” or “You’re too sensitive’ or “You’re so needy” and you received the message loud and fucking clear that your needs are just way too much to handle and accommodate. So, we learn to silence ourselves and abandon what we truly want and need to live a happy life, which can lead to staying in jobs we loath and attached to relationships that make us feel like who we are is innately “wrong”.
This week on the show, I dial up my pal, Mara Glatzel, who is literally writing the book on being needy. We discuss the difference between wants and needs and why that doesn’t really matter all that much, what the concept of self-care has to do with honoring needs, and the first place you need to start when figuring out what you need. If you’ve been operating in a space of hustle, constantly taking care of other people, and really have never stopped to pause and evaluate your needs, this episode is a must-listen.
This pod explores:
How-the-hell to balance honoring your needs/self-care and actually getting shit done
The difference between the wildly popular Prescriptive Self-Care and the much needed Responsive Self-Care
How to examine some of the doors we’ve shut on our own needs during the Pandemic because we aren’t able to fulfill them in the same way (ie If I can’t do group fitness anymore, I’ll just shut the fitness door completely)
Why the concept of “Needs v. Wants” doesn’t really matter in living a fulfilled life
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Mara Glatzel, MSW (she/her) is an intuitive coach, writer, and podcast host. She is a needy human who helps other needy humans stop abandoning themselves and start reclaiming their humanity through embracing their needs and honoring their natural energy cycles. Her superpower is saying what you need to hear when you need to hear it and she is here to help you believe in yourself as much as she believes in you. Find out more at MaraGlatzel.com
You get super jelly that your partner gets to have extra time off work, so you say (in a snarky-ass tone), “Wow. Must be nice to have so much free time”. Or maybe a work group you’re a part of is trying to decide how to handle a specific project and instead of voicing your true thoughts you say, “We can certainly do it your way” and mutter under you breath, “And good fucking luck with that.”
What we have here, folks, are two examples of the Passive-Aggressive Communication Style. Everyone’s fav. But, even though we find it infuriating, many of us do it ourselves aaaaaall the time.
If you weren’t properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it’s likely that you find yourself falling into one of the less-than-effective communication styles. Research has shown that there are four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive (#guilty), and assertive. Fifty points if you can figure out which one is most effective. Yup, Assertive.
But, if you’re like most, you probably dip your toes in a bit of the other three. And, you certainly are not alone. In this episode, part two of two, I take a deep dive into the Passive-Aggressive and Assertive communication styles. I cover off what they typically sound like, what their go-to tactics are, what to do if you communicate this way, and what to do if you’re engaging with someone who employs the Passive-Aggressive style. Be sure to have a pen and paper handy as I spell out specific verbiage and phrases you can use… like, yesterday.
This pod explores:
My absolute favorite tactic in calling someone out (without royally pissing them off) when they are being Passive-Aggressive
How to untangle your own go-to Passive-Aggressive tendencies and what to say instead
What to do if your entire family system relies on being Passive-Aggressive to communicate
My favorite Assertive go-to phrases to use when you need (and want) to be clear, kind, and concise
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Someone does something that really bothers you, but you’d rather pull your own teeth out than have a confrontation… so you just stay quiet. Or maybe your family is so damn aggressive that you find it easier to hide in the shadows instead of “rocking the boat”.
If you weren’t properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it’s likely that you find yourself falling into one of the less-than-effective communication styles. Research has shown that there are four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive (a fan fave), and assertive. Twenty points if you can figure out which one is most effective. Yup, Assertive.
But, if you’re like most, you probably dip your toes in a bit of the other three. And, you certainly are not alone. In this episode, part one of two, I take a deep dive into the Passive and the Aggressive communication styles. I cover off what they typically sound like, what their go-to tactics are, what to do if you communicate this way, and what to do if you’re engaging with someone who employs one of these styles. Be sure to have a pen and paper handy as I spell out specific verbiage and phrases you can use… like, yesterday.
This pod explores:
Understanding where a Passive Communication Style typically stems from and why it’s not always a bad thing
How to mitigate the eventual eruptions (hello, volcano!) that a Passive Communication often leads to
The sneaky way Aggressive Communication can show up (and what to do about it)
The absolute #1 priority if you are dealing with an extreme Aggressive Communicator (it’s non-negotiable, y’all)
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Tell me if you can relate: Your partner does something that royally pisses you off, but when you address it, you blow a gasket and things seem to get worse. Or maybe you’re so overwhelmed and stressed at work but can’t find the words to share that with your boss. Or possibly your sister embarrassed you in front of your whole family, but instead of dealing with it, you sweep it under the rug and resentment builds and builds.
Do you happen to notice the correlations in all these scenarios? They are one part “Emotions” and one part “Communication”. We don’t often take the time to dissect what we are actually feeling and how that impacts the way we communicate in our relationships. But think about any of these situations without the emotional element. If you weren’t so angry at your partner, would you have communicated that way? If you weren’t so embarrassed, how would your communication have changed? How we communicate with others is directly related to what we are feeling emotionally.
This week on the show, I dial up Dr. Shyamala Kiru who is an ex-therapist turned relationship and leadership coach (and totally badass) who literally wrote the book on navigating emotional intelligence as women. Dr. Shyamala and I discuss the influence of our family of origin on our ability to name and regulate our emotions, how fear shows up for all of us, and what communication pitfalls we often fall into, arresting our ability for rich connection. When I say this conversation is packed, it’s fucking packed. Packed with some serious fodder to help you uplevel your communication and in turn, your relationship fulfillment. Get some.
This pod explores:
Why working on emotional intelligence is even worth the effort (Hint: It soooo is)
Understanding “Communication Culprits” and how you may be unknowingly sabotaging getting your needs met
Dr. Shyamala’s “3 Pillars of Success” – a specific formula for understanding your own emotions leading to richer relationships (yes, please!)
The four emotional traps that we often fall into when navigating relationships and what we can do about them
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This podcast is sponsored by LetsGetChecked and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get a whoppin’ 30% off their first test kit of choice attrylgc.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!!
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
The Bold-Faced Truth Imposter Complex Series: POD 384, 385, 386, & 387
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THIS WEEK’S ‘DIAL AN EXPERT’ GUESTIE
Dr. Shyamala is an ex-therapist turned Leadership + Relationship Expert with 20 years experience in advanced communication, relationship management and leadership training for high-powered women.
She is the founder of The EQ Code, a global coaching company designed for women who are ready to master their emotions, communicate fearlessly and lead with confidence, so they can execute on their mission at a whole new level.
While she no longer practices Psychotherapy, she is the founder of the Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic, a virtual mental health practice serving Canada, and has served on the Board of Directors for the Ontario Association for Marriage & Family Therapy.
As a speaker, Dr. Shyamala provides keynote speeches on a local, national and international scale. As a media expert, she’s appeared on a national television show for nearly a decade and makes guest appearances on CTV, CP24 as well as frequent pieces of print media. You can also catch her wisdom on her podcast, Confessions of an Ex- Therapist.
Most importantly, she is the Partner in Crime to her adored husband and the Chief Inspiring Officer to her incredible daughter.
So, you consciously “know” that you should allow room to feel your emotions and cultivate vulnerability (Hi, Brené!) but why don’t you actually practice accessing your emotional self? I’ll tell you why. Logic, reason, and rationale are housed in the conscious part of the mind which is estimated to be roughly 10% of the mind power. Your beliefs and habits, however, are located in the subconscious mind which is the other whoppin’ 90%. That means that simply “knowing” that emotional intelligence is mandatory for rich connections doesn’t negate the fact that there is likely a HUGE disempowering belief hanging out in the subconscious telling you how dangerous and scary emotions are. That disempowering belief will win every time.
But all is not lost my friend. There are a handful of ways to access and shift the beliefs of the subconscious mind and one of my absolute favorite methods is via hypnosis. In this episode, I share a bit about what hypnosis is, how it works, what sensory preference is and why it matters, and finally how hypnosis can be a powerful aid in shifting negative beliefs you may hold about shutting down the feels. After a brief explanation, I guide you through a powerful hypnosis session to help you unlock the negative beliefs you’ve been attached to around your *feels*.
This pod explores:
What hypnosis actually is (as in, what is really happening in the brain) and what it is not (It’s not clucking like a chicken, FYI)
What hypnosis has to do with the inner critic and how you can use it to kick your inner critic in the ass
How you go into hypnotic trances daily without even knowing it
How to shift your belief that emotions are dangerous and in turn, allow room to grow your emo self
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FREE HYPNOSIS MEDITATION
READY TO UNLOCK YOUR EMOTIONAL POWER SO YOU CAN SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF LIKE A BOSS?
OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
If you’re like most people, it’s likely no one sat you down and taught you about how to feel your feels, how to allow yourself to feel emotions other than happiness, and how to speak up for yourself around your feelings. Well, never fear, my friend. The great news is that you can learn how to embrace your emotional side in a way that feels powerful and um, not like you’re standing naked in front of a room full of strangers. #nothankyou This powerful hypnosis track will help you give yourself permission to access your emotional self so that you can have richer relationships and much more powerful and effective communication. Get into it! GO HERE to grab your copy!
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
You know that thing where you consciously understand that you are worthy and “enough” but you struggle to actually believe it? Well, there’s a very real reason for that, so no, you aren’t uniquely broken. Like, at all. It has everything to do with the subconscious part of the mind and how it truly runs our life, behavior, and emotions. Our minds are roughly comprised of 10% conscious faculty and 90% subconscious faculty. That means you can logically, rationally understand something (like worthiness) but if you have a deep-seated belief rooted in the subconscious mind that you most certainly are “not enough”, guess which part of the mind dictates your behaviour? Yup. The whoppin’ 90% subconscious.
Well, shit. What are we supposed to do about that?
Well, the great news is there are ways to reprogram the subconscious (thank god!) and my guest this week is going to spill all the deets. Laura Gevanter works in a specific modality called PSYCH-K® that helps individuals move past the trauma that has created limited beliefs (Like, “I’m not enough”) in order to create new, empowering beliefs. In our chat today, we discuss how much physical distress is rooted in unresolved emotional trauma, how working with the subconscious can aid in quickly changing disempowering beliefs, and how you can start believing that you are actually Enough, Already!
This pod explores:
The two common areas where the Psych-K modality is used (hint: you probably can relate)
What the hell muscle testing is and how that is related to our subconscious mind
Understanding the brain science behind changing limiting beliefs (even if you aren’t a neuroscientist)
The connection between emotional trauma and physical ailments and what you can do about it
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Laura Gevanter is a PSYCH-K® Facilitator, an Intuitive Coach, Group Workshop Leader and Retreat Host. She has a Psychology degree from the University of Massachusetts and Life Coaching Certification from IPEC in New York City. She has completed the Basic, Advanced and Health & Wellness PSYCH-K™ trainings.
As a former, self-proclaimed self-help junkie she would devour the latest book as if it held the answers to a successful, happy life and found her way into studying brain science, quantum physics, the law of attraction, and how to use energy to transform and manifest. This led her to seek coach training and then PSYCH-K as effective modalities to make that a reality. The foundation of her work is to help increase your level of consciousness, transform limiting beliefs and change the perception of past trauma and stress triggers, so you clear the blocks which are getting in your way.
Connect with Laura on Insta, Facebook, or the Inaura platform where she is a featured guide and teacher.
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You’re livid. Heads are about to roll. Maybe you found out that your partner didn’t take care of an important issue at your child’s school leaving you scrambling at the last minute. Or perhaps your sister went behind your back and shared something with other family members when you specifically asked her not to. Or maybe you can’t listen to the news, get direction from *you know who* at work, or drive to the gym without feeling like you could punch someone (or many someones) in the teeth.
Listen, up, Babycakes. Anger is real. It’s a natural, human reaction to feeling wronged, threatened, or victimized. But, if you’re like many peeps, you have never been given the tools to navigate anger in a healthy way without plummeting head first into an addiction, a physical altercation, or massively regretting everything you just said/did… like, damaging property or something.
So, is the trick to not get mad? Of course not. In the first half of this episode, I address a simple, four-step process to dealing with a fit of anger… whether it’s been festering for years or if it just hit you today. In the second portion, I spell out some Dos and Don’ts around working with your anger. This process will allow you feel waaaaay more in control, create a ton of permission to be your messy, human self, and get to the root issues so you can get back to your badassery.
This pod explores:
Why processing your anger is actually essential for your health (What!? I know.)
How to channel your anger in a way that feels massively healing and cathartic (instead of riddled with guilt and regret)
My favorite tool for figuring out the “real” issue behind what’s pissing you off, so you can make some real and lasting change
How to ask for what you need in a way that actually gets you heard… and gets results
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*FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
On April 15, 2013, Jennifer Kauffman was standing approximately 15 feet from the finish line bombing at the 117th Boston Marathon. It goes without saying that surviving this terrorist attack left Jennifer with a litany of physical and emotional wounds to tend to. After addressing the emergent physical healing, Jennifer was left emotionally reeling from this event as she grappled with her extreme rage toward the attackers.
As she moved through her emotional healing, and began to find her peace, she felt convicted to share her story with the intention of inspiring others. As a best selling author and an executive producer of two Emmy award-winning movies, she is on a mission to inspire, encourage and empower people to rise despite seemingly impossible situations, transforming their trauma, enabling them to rise and thrive to live their best life. Talk about inspiring.
In this candid and unabashed interview, Jennifer shares her personal story, including reading her victim impact statement at the sentencing, and how she was able to move through her all-consuming rage to access forgiveness for the bombers. What!!? I know. Have a listen and learn what it looks like to transform your trauma into personal power.
This pod explores:
How Jennifer managed to forgive the two terrorists of the Boston Marathon Bombing
How to process extreme rage around injustice and trauma and synthesize it into healing
What to do to process your emotions when you feel triggered
The big secret that no one tells you about healing from trauma
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*FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Jennifer Kauffman is the Director and Producer of the transformational movie, There’s Got To Be More To Life, based on a true story of Jennifer’s journey of rising up from terrorism and childhood traumas where she went from barely surviving to thriving. She’s an Executive Producer of 2 Emmy and Telly award winning films, A New Leash on Life: The K9’s for Warriors Story and Freedom Isn’t Free: The Folds of Honor Story. She’s an inspirational speaker, best-selling author, award-winning results coach and founder of The Rise & Thrive Movement.
Through Transformational Movies, Jen is on a mission to inspire, encourage and empower people to rise despite seemingly impossible situations, transforming their trauma, enabling them to rise and thrive to live their best life.
At the start of every year, it’s likely you get pumped up and excited to make some serious change. You decide on a handful of things that you are GOING to conquer this year, god-damn-it! But what actually makes those goals a reality?
Throughout my decade-plus in this work, I have found that noble intentions have very little to do with bringing goals to fruition. Good ol’ fashioned gumption and desire are not enough to make your dreams come true. [sad trombone] In fact, a recent Inc.com article indicated that only 8% of people actually accomplish their goals. WHOA!! 8%!? Well, fuck.
But, wait.
Never fear, Babycakes, because this episode targets seven ways people tend to sabotage their own goals (without even realizing it) and how you can set yourself up to slaaaaay all your goals. It’s not rocket science, but if you employ some of these easy tactics, you will kill all your 2022 goals! Yes, please!
This pod explores:
My favorite tool to use to ensure you are tackling this goal for YOU (instead of mom/fam/boss/society)
The number one way people lose steam while working towards a goal and how you can smoothly move beyond this obstacle like a BOSS
Why you need accountability and people in your life to support you and what to do if you don’t
How to keep your self-talk on point so you are constantly encouraged, kicking ass, and taking names
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*FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Have you ever found yourself feeling like no matter what you do, no matter how hard you work, how “perfect” you may be, or how many damn boxes you’ve checked off it never seems to be enough? Your mind constantly spins with “I’m not smart enough… accomplished enough… pretty enough… good enough” or fill in the blank with some other “not enough”. It’s almost as though your entire life is centered around attaining this elusive Enoughness.
And, DAMN is that ever stressful, amiright!? Constantly doing, doing, doing… Constantly achieving. Constantly perfecting. Twisting, contorting… trying to find your worth in how others perceive you. Sound familiar?
Well, I have some very good news for you. If you’ve found yourself trying to garner “enoughness” through these same behaviors or found your inner shit-talker telling you just simply are not good enough, it’s actually not a YOU problem. It’s a much larger problem with the society in which we live. And that society is steeped in patriarchy. So, the great news is that there is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But, our culture? Our society? Yes, therein lies the problem.
Throughout millenia women have endured the perpetual stress of not being “enough” and in the words of my brilliant guest this week, Dr. Valerie Rein, they have been viewed as being “worth less” than men. In this candid and thought-provoking conversation, Dr. Valerie highlights her discovery of Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and how it impacts every last one of us. We discuss the influence of religion on our patriarchal system, how generational trauma is impacting how we show up in the world, and what we can do to reclaim our personal agency and power. You’re welcome.
This pod explores:
The number one symptom of trauma and how to recognize it in your own life (Spoiler: We literally ALL have trauma)
Dr. Valerie’s concept of “Falling Asleep” or “Taking a Bite of the Poisonous Patriarchy Apple” and what we can do to regain our personal strength and power
Understanding intergenerational trauma and how it affects you… even if you think you had a “pretty good” childhood
How to shift from constantly asking “How much more can I bear?” to “How good can it get?” (Yes, please!)
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*FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Dr. Valerie Rein is a psychologist and women’s mental health expert who has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression.
She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her #1 Amazon bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” has been heralded by reviewers as “the most important body of literary work of our modern times” and “perhaps the most important book of the century for women.”
Dr. Valerie’s cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from “how much can I bear?” to “how good can it get?”, from survival to thriving, in their work and personal lives.
Here are some great opportunities to get connected with Dr. Valerie:
2) Follow her on Instagram — or on Facebook – feel free to tag and DM her! She love tags and hashtags, hers are #patriarchystressdisorder and #thethrivingexperience — follow them for updates
3) Come out and play with us live at our legendary free virtual retreat, The Thriving Experience! Learn more and register here.
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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
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