You land your perfect job. And then your inner voice tells you that you are horribly unqualified and everyone is going to find you out.
You enter a super healthy relationship with an awesome partner. And then your inner voice tells you how damaged you are, why you aren’t good enough, and why it’s all going to come crashing down in a blazing inferno.
You finally finish that graduate degree. And then your inner voice tells you how you were the slowest in the class, probably won’t get hired, and should probably just try to get your old job back.
Sound familiar? If so, you are likely battling a lovely little issue we (in the personal growth world) like to call The Imposter Complex. The idea that, in spite of your success or accomplishment, you are somehow not good enough, a total fraud, and have fooled everyone who will surely soon find you out.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener’s burning Q about what to do when you find yourself beating yourself up about being an imposter in your career, relationship, as a parent, or whatever. You’ll learn what to do with those pesky thoughts, how to acknowledge yourself (without being a cocky asshole), and how to own your god-damned brilliance (even if that terrifies you).
This pod explores:
How to reframe the lies you’ve bought into telling you that you’re a fraud
How to zero in on what you’re really afraid of so you can get a handle on your triggers and create a much more empowering inner convo
Two of my favorite assignments to snap you outta this imposter trap (bring your pen and paper, Babycakes! We got work to do!)
The one tool you need to employ TODAY to change how you view yourself so you know, you can actually be fucking happy
This episode is part of a limited, 6-part podcast series teaching you all the tools and strategies you need to kick your confidence and self-worth into high gear. I’ve also created detailed (and #gorge) worksheets to accompany each episode in the series to aid you in cementing all your ah-ha moments and anchor in lasting change.
Recent scientific studies have shown that taking pen to paper helps the brain retain information substantially more than listening alone. Get ready to set powerful boundaries (without guilt), contend with fear and worry like a boss, kick imposter complex to the curb, and finally believe you are ‘enough’ already. So clickety-click RIGHT HERE and grab your free worksheets!
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IT’S TIME TO BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTHY, ONCE AND FOR ALL.
It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has that been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? The doors just opened for an exclusive, small group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes TWO all-inclusive, 5-day, luxury retreats! Hello!
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Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you have undoubtedly heard the notion of “setting boundaries”, but have you ever wondered exactly what that means? Or maybe you drummed up the nerve to tell someone (like, your mom, boss, or bestie) how you really felt about something only to be blatantly ignored? (Or worse… not even taken seriously.)
How do you actually go about establishing boundaries that are clear, respected, and adhered to? It’s hard enough to broach a challenging topic with someone, let alone follow through on your boundary.
Here’s the deal… if you’ve been constantly bitchin’ and moanin’ about something, and you’ve been super vocal about it to everyone, except the person who really needs to know you’re (ah-hem) “upset”, then it’s probably time to have a tough convo. In this week’s episode, I share my three-step process to establish boundaries in a way in which you can be heard and own your personal power.
This pod explores:
What-the-hell a boundary even is
The tell-tale place to find where a boundary is sorely needed
My three-step process to having these challenging convos
The *most* important thing to focus on when crafting a powerful boundary
This episode is part of a limited, 6-part podcast series teaching you all the tools and strategies you need to kick your confidence and self-worth into high gear. I’ve also created detailed (and #gorge) worksheets to accompany each episode in the series to aid you in cementing all your ah-ha moments and anchor in lasting change.
Recent scientific studies have shown that taking pen to paper helps the brain retain information substantially more than listening alone. Get ready to set powerful boundaries (without guilt), contend with fear and worry like a boss, kick imposter complex to the curb, and finally believe you are ‘enough’ already. So clickety-click RIGHT HERE and grab your free worksheets!
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IT’S TIME TO BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTHY, ONCE AND FOR ALL.
It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has that been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? The doors just opened for an exclusive, small group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes TWO all-inclusive, 5-day, luxury retreats! Hello!
Want in? Of course, you do. Clickety clickRIGHT HERE or click the fancy image to read all about it and submit your application!
Many of us grow up hearing that we “shouldn’t rock the boat”, “open a can of worms”, and that we should simply “sweep it under the rug”. In my not-so-humble opinion, these are all idioms for “shut the eff up and suffer in silence”. These are seemingly noble encouragements for us to keep putting everyone else in front of ourselves and keep people-pleasing our pretty little asses off.
Unfortunately, when we chronically stifle our voice, we are sending a subconscious message to our mind that we simply don’t matter as much as everyone else. Taking care of the other person’s emotions is FAR MORE important than your own. So no wonder you’ve been struggling with self-worth!
Here’s where it can get complicated: If you consider yourself someone who has a strong core value around honesty, integrity, or authenticity, yet you constantly shape-shift in order to please others, you aren’t really honoring your own value. And I’m guessing that if you are looking to attract new friendships and relationships rooted in honesty and integrity, you aren’t looking for folks blowing smoke up your ass… to people-please you. So… you should probably BE the person you are looking to attract.
In this week’s show, I break down two major ways people-pleasing shows up in our world and how to know if it’s serving you (yes, that’s actually a thing) or if it’s stealing your joy. Be sure to grab your freebie worksheets that accompany this episode because you’ll be learning all about the connection between your core values and your people-pleasing behavior and how to stand in your personal power.
This pod explores:
The real definition of people-pleasing (especially if you don’t identify as a people-pleaser)
How being a kind, compassionate person can backfire on you and how to make sure it doesn’t
Why you HAVE GOT TO stop saying “I feel so bad!” or “I feel so guilty!”
My 4-question journal prompt to help you discern if you are honoring your core values… or if people-pleasing is effin’ everything up
This episode is part of a limited, 6-part podcast series teaching you all the tools and strategies you need to kick your confidence and self-worth into high gear. I’ve also created detailed (and #gorge) worksheets to accompany each episode in the series to aid you in cementing all your ah-ha moments and anchor in lasting change.
Recent scientific studies have shown that taking pen to paper helps the brain retain information substantially more than listening alone. Get ready to set powerful boundaries (without guilt), contend with fear and worry like a boss, kick imposter complex to the curb, and finally believe you are ‘enough’ already. So clickety-click RIGHT HERE and grab your free worksheets!
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IT’S TIME TO BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTHY, ONCE AND FOR ALL.
It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has that been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? I’m about to open the doors for an exclusive, small group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes TWO all-inclusive, 5-day, luxury retreats! Hello!
Want in? Of course, you do. Clickety clickRIGHT HERE or click the fancy image to read all about it and MARK YOUR CAL! The application window officially opens September 2nd, 2024!
One. More. Thing. One more thing and you may just lose your god-damned mind. If one more person asks something of you… If one more task gets added to your to-do list… You may just Lose. Your. Shit.
We’ve all been in this crazy-ass-stressed-the-fuck-out place where we become, uh-hem, a little less than the best version of ourselves. We scream at our kids when they need something minimal. We lash out at our spouse, or friend, or co-worker when they are just trying to help. In essence, we become somewhat addicted to being super stressed out and overwhelmed.
Here’s the unique thing about navigating modern stressors… When our primitive ancestors were dealing with some kind of threat, let’s say a lion, they would have a sharp spike of stress, handle the stressful situation (escape the lion) and then easily be able to access a calm, tranquil space. Essentially, they were able to complete the entire stress response cycle. But now we are in many stressful situations that simply don’t stop. #rememberCovid Whether it be traffic, dealing with a high-demand job, feeling threatened in your interpersonal relationships, or being stressed out about the state of the world, it’s highly likely that you’ve been existing in your sympathetic nervous system which our bodies respond to like we’re constantly running from lions. It’s basically really, really fucking detrimental to our nervous systems.
If this sounds like I have a hidden camera installed in your place, you need to have a listen to this week’s pod. BTW, no camera (#creepy)… I’ve just been in this place far too many times to count. And in this episode, I discuss what spikes our fear/stress response and share a slew of simple things you can do to let go of the fear, stress, and mortal combat that may be driving you to the brink of insanity. Say hello to some serious peace, tranquility, and happy dances.
This pod explores:
Understanding how our fear is simply trying to keep us safe (even though it’s a shitty communicator)
10+ easy ways to immediately relieve your stress
My P.O.D. method for navigating extreme fear, overwhelm, and stress
How to start asking for help… even if you really hate asking for help. And how that can be a fierce act of feminism.
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This episode is part of a limited, 6-part podcast series teaching you all the tools and strategies you need to kick your confidence and self-worth into high gear. I’ve also created detailed (and #gorge) worksheets to accompany each episode in the series to aid you in cementing all your ah-ha moments and anchor in lasting change.
Recent scientific studies have shown that taking pen to paper helps the brain retain information substantially more than listening alone. Get ready to set powerful boundaries (without guilt), contend with fear and worry like a boss, kick imposter complex to the curb, and finally believe you are ‘enough’ already. So clickety-click RIGHT HERE and grab your free worksheets!
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You have “this friend”… and perhaps this is someone you’ve known forever, maybe you saw each other through some tough times, but at this particular place in your life, this friendship has been feeling strained, frustrating, and sometimes downright toxic. But you guilt yourself saying, “Well, we’ve been friends since college” or “Am I a dick if I don’t want to be there for her anymore?”
If that sounds at all familiar, you are in the same boat that many people find themselves in when they reach their 30s and 40s and beyond. You’ve grown as a person, your life has changed, and your priorities have shifted. But, you still feel tethered to this historical relationship that feels more like it’s robbing you dry than adding to your fulfillment.
A listener of the show wrote to the pod asking how to actually let go of one of these friendships. I mean, how do you go about breaking up with a friend? Is there an approach? How do you know if you’re being a big ‘ol meanie? If you’ve been pulled to part ways with a friendship, but have no idea what-the-hell that really looks like, you may want to have a listen. I discuss six major concepts to keep in mind (you know, to keep your shit straight) and two specific methods you can take to pull the trigger on the “break up”. Additionally, I walk you through how to deal if someone breaks up with you (or simply just ghosts you).
This pod explores:
How to tap into the “real” reason you’re looking to end the friendship
How to get connected to the way you need to conduct yourself so you’re proud of your own behavior (even if the other person loses their shit)
Two specific methods to “break up” with this unfulfilling friendship
Four steps to aid in your healing if someone has broken up with you or isn’t communicating with you any longer
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Every single year, over 1 million women question leaving their marriage. And nearly 70 percent of all divorces are initiated by women. And it’s no wonder – Marriage makes men’s lives exponentially easier while it makes women’s lives drastically harder. It is clear that ‘traditional’ marriage dynamics are no longer tenable for American women.
Years ago, I remember having a chat with a friend where she was lamenting that she should be grateful her husband wasn’t cavorting around, cheating on her, abusing substances, or screaming obscenities at her. I clearly remember her saying, “Wow, the bar is set pretty damn low.” Seriously. Not being abused should be a given, not something to be celebrated.
In my near two decades of coaching, I have found myriad women frustrated, overwhelmed, and downright furious about the inequity in their marriage. Whilst doing all the domestic labor, holding down impressive careers, and digging deep into therapy and personal development, these women often find themselves lonely, heartbroken, and baffled at the lack of ownership and responsibility their partners were exhibiting in the relationship. No wonder recent studies cite single women without children being the happiest in our society.
In this week’s episode, I chat with my close pal and colleague, Kate Anthony, who has just penned a book entitled, “The ‘D’ Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage”. Kate talks with me about her own divorce journey, shares about debunked studies citing divorce negatively affects children, understanding narcissism, and the courageous choice not to settle for subpar relationships. Have a listen and gain more insight on if you should stay or if you should go.
This pod explores:
Understanding various forms of abuse and the unexpected way financial abuse shows up
The faulty and unfounded research that propagated the notion that you should “stay together for the kids” and what new research has found
Why trying to “just communicate more effectively” isn’t working for you and what to focus on instead
The curious place we are in history where the gender dynamics of marriage are changing dramatically
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THIS WEEK’S EXPERT GUESTIE
Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work. Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate, a Co-Parenting Specialist, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach.
At the start of every year, it’s likely you get pumped up and excited to make some serious change. You decide on a handful of things that you are GOING to conquer this year, god-damn-it! But what actually makes those goals a reality?
Throughout my 15+ years in this work, I have found that noble intentions have very little to do with bringing goals to fruition. Good ol’ fashioned gumption and desire are not enough to make your dreams come true. [sad trombone] In fact, a recent Inc.com article indicated that only 8% of people actually accomplish their goals. WHOA!! 8%!? Well, fuck.
But, wait.
Never fear, Babycakes, because this episode targets seven ways people tend to sabotage their own goals (without even realizing it) and how you can set yourself up to slaaaaay all your goals. It’s not rocket science, but if you employ some of these easy tactics, you will kill all your 2024 goals! Yes, please!
This pod explores:
My favorite tool to use to ensure you are tackling this goal for YOU (instead of mom/fam/boss/society)
The number one way people lose steam while working towards a goal and how you can smoothly move beyond this obstacle like a BOSS
Why you need accountability and people in your life to support you and what to do if you don’t
How to keep your self-talk on point so you are constantly encouraged, kicking ass, and taking names
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If you’re like most people, you have an overwhelming sense of excitement and ambition come the new year. Also like most people, perhaps you hit Jan with a fire under your ass, but when Feb rolls around you have slowly begun to lose steam, fervor, and action. Also, 2023 kicked many of our asses, so there’s that to contend with. Many people (and maybe YOU) enter the New Year with many plans and intentions, but somehow end up a bit off track sooner than later.
In this episode, I address the biggest obstacles people unknowingly establish for themselves when crafting New Year’s goals and “resolutions”. Yep, you read that right… many people actually make their job a shit-ton harder by not setting themselves up for success to begin with. I also share my personal planning tool I use every single year to ensure I establish solid goals in aaaaall areas of my life (not just health and money… but, yes, those too). Be sure to grab your free planning guide so you can plan and organize a seriously epic 2024 by figuring out what categories in which you would like to make headway. Plus, you’ll have a sexy Planning Guide to record all your brilliance!
This pod explores:
The two biggest mistakes people make when crafting goals for the new year
How to assess where you are in your life now and where you want to be in a year’s time
How to create goals that are really about YOUR fulfillment, are totally attainable, and light you up
Why you probably don’t want to celebrate your 2023 accomplishments, but you kinda, absolutely MUST
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Did you grab your free planning guide that accompanies this episode? Get on it, Babycakes! Here’s the deal: our brain takes things waaaaay more seriously when we get out of our heads and get our thoughts/commitments out on paper. It’s like, science.
So, OF COURSE I want you to make some serious changes and make shit happen in 2024, so be sure you have your Pod #497 planning guide with you while you (re) listen to this pod so you can get into some serious action. Trust… if you just listen and don’t DO, you’re not going to change a damn thing.
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Ever wonder why having difficult conversations causes soooo much anxiety, often leaving you tongue-tied, frustrated with how you’re getting your point across, and down-right bummed-the-fuck-out? It can be super stressful to approach a sticky topic with someone in your life, especially if you are anticipating a less than enthusiastic response. Believe it or not, there are actually a handful of things you can do to totally shift in your approach in order to get your message across in a MUCH more effective way. You know, without throwing your partner’s shoes at them.
This episode targets 8 steps you can easily employ to feel much more powerful when you tell your mother-in-law to stop trying to parent your kids. Or whatever other challenging topic you need to address. You’ll learn the most effective way to communicate your needs (and in turn get what you want) without feeling like a big ol’ asshole.
This pod explores:
What you need to do BEFORE you have a tough conversation in order to set yourself up for success
How to begin a conversation in such a way that the other party is totally willing to hear you out
How to get really clear on what you’re asking for or requesting
How to own your shit and feel good about what you’re expressing, even if the other person isn’t diggin’ it
ACCESS ‘ENOUGHNESS’. POWERFULLY NAVIGATE FEAR. SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF.
I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin’ some gems (um, like, who couldn’t use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.
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Ever feel like you’re expressing yourself like a #boss and the other person is like, “Why are you yelling? Please don’t scream at me.” And then you’re all, “Whaaaa?! I’M NOT SCREAMING!” Or have you ever addressed something with your partner/bestie/co-worker and they told you your tone was a bit harsh? Um. Yeah. Me too.
Recently, a listener reached out to the show and asked how she could better control her voice when talking about serious issues with her husband. Often we think we are being crystal-fucking-clear about WHAT we are saying to another person, but in the passion of our emotions, we often lose sight of HOW we are expressing our thoughts.
In this episode, I spill nine, super-easy-to-implement communication hacks you can use to control your tone, not lose your ever-lovin’ mind, and communicate in a way that gets your point across and your needs met. Boom. Just like that.
This pod explores:
My favorite body-related, go-to tactic to use in the middle of a heated conversation
How to develop a “code word” or “phrase” to signal the convo is going off the rails
What to do if you actually DO lose your shit and need to clean up your mess
ACCESS ‘ENOUGHNESS’. POWERFULLY NAVIGATE FEAR. SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF.
I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin’ some gems (um, like, who couldn’t use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.
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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
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