[AMY SAYS] EP#488 – The Difference Between Feeling ‘Not Enough’ + Believing You’re ‘Not Enough’ and what to do about it

Aug 20, 2023


Have you ever had a situation where you were super disappointed, hurt, or overwhelmed and you jumped to the conclusion that you must certainly not be ‘enough’? Perhaps you’ve been having a difficult time finding a job and the stress you’ve been feeling has you non-stop thinking how you mess everything up. Or that you simply aren’t smart enough. Or maybe you had a friend distance themselves from you and you interpret the hurt you feel to mean you aren’t worth being friends with.

When we are feeling uncomfortable emotions, it can be so easy to immediately conclude that we aren’t worthy, lovable, or deserving of the life we want. Our emotions are fleeting experiences, yet we often create a lasting, all-encompassing story about who we are. As in, if this person doesn’t love me, I must not be lovable. The first experience is a fleeting life situation with short-term emotions, so why do we make up a bullshit story that we carry through the rest of our lives?

In this episode, I look at the difference between the emotions we feel around not being “enough” and how that differs from a deep-seated belief that you aren’t enough. This is a deep dive on emotional intelligence, how to feel through hardship to gain healing, and why you are never, ever wrong for what you feel. Get ready to untangle your temporary emotions from your sense of self-worth.

This pod explores:

  • Understanding how to work with your emotions (instead of eating/drinking them away)
  • Understanding the difference between physical feelings and emotional feelings (and why we commonly conflate the two)
  • My house metaphor and how it can dramatically change your view of your worth
  • The first two steps to take toward untangling your emotions from you self-worth




It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has that been working? That’s what I thought.

Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? I’m about to open the doors for an exclusive, small group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes TWO all-inclusive, 5-day, luxury retreats! Hello!

Want in? Of course, you do. Clickety click RIGHT HERE or click the fancy image to get on the VIP list and be the first to be notified when the application window is open for WORTHY.



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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?

It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.


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