[AMY SAYS] EP#457 – 10 Things to Do When You Feel Stuck

[AMY SAYS] EP#457 – 10 Things to Do When You Feel Stuck

Recently a listener wrote into the show, asking what to do when you find yourself feeling stuck. You know that racket, no? Stuck in a relationship… stuck in a soul-sucking job… stuck in a friendship that doesn’t serve you. The list goes on. Perhaps you know exactly what you want, but you feel stuck in taking any action. Or maybe you have no idea what you want and that is leaving you feeling stagnant and unmotivated.

Many times, when we feel “stuck”, we look outside ourselves for the magic answer instead of addressing things that are totally within our power. Without knowing it, we fall into patterns and habits that ultimately leave us feeling complacent and we forget to take action on the things that we already know bring us joy. Like, getting back to that knitting project you loved. Or picking up your guitar again. Whatever… you get the picture.

In this episode, I dig into ten different strategies and questions you can ask yourself to break out of your stuck-ness in order to create much more happiness and fulfillment. You may actually be super surprised how easy it can be!

This pod explores:

  • What to say to yourself instead of “I don’t know how to…”
  • How to break up the monotony of your habits and switch shit up, creating much more momentum and movement
  • How to clear out the clutter in your world that is unknowingly keeping you stuck-as-fuck
  • Why you must create a plan if you want to change your current situation

 

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[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#456 – Dealing with Unexpected Life Curveballs with Michelle Ward

[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#456 – Dealing with Unexpected Life Curveballs with Michelle Ward

If you’re anything like me, you probably love having a nice plan for your life… Some nice stability, order, structure… some might even say you’ve got a tight grip on control. [guilty face] I know that space quite well. But, what happens when your solidly formed plans get thwarted by something you could never have seen coming? How do you allow room for grief that your life is going in a totally different direction and still hold on to what matters most to you? How do you take care of yourself when you suddenly have to find a new home? Or recieve a scary diagnosis? Experience a death in the family? Learn your partner wants a divorce? 

My dear friend, Michelle Ward, knows a thing or two or twenty about dealing with massive life curveballs. In 2011, she was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer in the midst of fertility treatment for the child she and her husband were desperately trying to conceive. Not only was she dealing with the new realization that having a baby would not at all be as easy as they had planned, but now that dream had to come to a screeching halt as she navigated this life-altering diagnosis. And, the curveballs kept coming. After going into remission, she was diagnosed with breast cancer AGAIN. I mean… how do you not just shake your fists at the Universe like, “WTF, lady!?” 

In this week’s show, Michelle and I have a candid conversation about what it looks like to reckon with new information that sends your world into a tailspin. We discuss the strategies she employed to cope, who was (and was not) a good person to lean on, and what it was like working through grief that took many different forms. If you feel like you can’t catch a break, you’ll want to tune and find out how to focus on the things you CAN control, even if that list feels like it’s rapidly shrinking. And, believe me when I say, you are most certainly not alone.

This pod explores:

  • How Michelle wrote a bunch of songs on her ukulele to help her process her diagnosis and what you can do to process the curveballs you’re up against (One song was comically called “Everyone’s Your Friend When You Have Cancer”)
  • What to do when folks in your life think you’re done with your difficult chapter (ie. divorce is final, cancer in remission, etc.) and you are still racked with grief 
  • How to know who you can trust with your story and who to stay away from
  • Understanding that there will likely be moments when you need to take the low road just to survive

 

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Michelle Ward helps women launch their service-based business in just 90 days so they can be their own damn boss. You may have seen or heard her in New York Magazine, NY Post, The Huffington Post, Etsy, Newsweek, Freelancers Union, USA Today, the Forbes Top 100 Websites for your Career list, EO Fire, Real Talk Radio, The Unmistakable Creative or hundreds of other media outlets. She’s the teacher of Create Your Dream Career and Ditch Your Day Job, which were watched by tens of thousands of people on CreativeLive. When she’s not coaching, teaching or speaking, she can be found watching her daughter play hockey, sitcom-binging with her husband, or belting out show tunes.

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[AMY SAYS] EP#455 – 6 Ways to Powerfully Navigate Transition

[AMY SAYS] EP#455 – 6 Ways to Powerfully Navigate Transition

Losing a job. Getting a tough diagnosis. Kids moving out of the house. Starting a business. Becoming a parent. All of these are examples of life transitions that can completely sideswipe us with emotion. Sometimes you intentionally plan for a transition, like moving to another country or changing careers, and other times, you may get forced into a life pivot out of nowhere leaving you floundering and reeling.

What is it about transition that makes it so difficult? Why is it that you still feel grief and sadness leaving a job when you’re starting a new business and are really excited for the opportunity? How can you keep your mind from spinning and “what-if-ing” all damn day? Even though life transitions are incredibly common, it seems no one has penned a nice instruction manual for how-the-hell to deal with such a situation. 

In this week’s episode, I look at six, specific tactics you can take to better address a transitional period you may be going through. We’ll look at the role of grief (and what that really means), how change can affect your personal sense of identity, and how to find your core comforts and support systems during this uncertain time. If you have been feeling wobbly about all of your current “unknowns”, you’ll find many tidbits of wisdom in this episode to help you process this journey much more powerfully.

This pod explores:

  • My favorite two thought reframes to aid you if life handed you a curveball
  • How to figure out who you *are* outside of your immediate circumstances
  • The best tactic to immediately bring yourself comfort during an uncertain time
  • Knowing who (and who NOT) to share your process with as you navigate your transition

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[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#454 – Major Life Transitions, Pivots, and Grief with Deb Cummins Stellato

[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#454 – Major Life Transitions, Pivots, and Grief with Deb Cummins Stellato

Dealing with a major life transition can be one of the most emotionally taxing and exhausting things we go through as humans. Not to mention that our society doesn’t look fondly on processing emotion and expects you to “put on a happy face” because “the show must go on”. Sometimes we’re working through an intentional life transition, like choosing to start your own business, and other times we get nailed with a life pivot out of nowhere. As in, your partner abruptly leaves the relationship, or you’re dealing with a devastating diagnosis or processing the death of a loved one.

No matter where you fall on the “pivot continuum”, it is likely that you will have a slew of emotions to navigate. So, where do you start? Is there a rubric or framework to follow? Some box you can check that states “You have successfully navigated this transition”? Hardly. This week on the show, I dial up Deb Cummins Stellato, a life and leadership coach who supports successful women seeking the courage to make pivots.

In this juicy conversation, Deb and I look at the role courage plays in all our life transitions whether you are pivoting to a new job or dealing with a traumatic illness. We discuss the major characteristics of thinking courageously, and the steps you can take to set yourself up for success if you’re processing a life pivot. We look at creating a safe community for yourself, leaning into accepting help (gah!), and what it means to listen to your intuition. 

This pod explores:

  • The major characteristics of women who think courageously as they deal with life pivots
  • The difference between navigating an intentional transition (Ie. choosing to leave a job) versus dealing with a major life curveball (Ie. a sudden death or diagnosis)
  • Deb’s definition of a life pivot and understanding where you may fall on the continuum
  • Deb’s favorite vocabulary tool to switch up how you’ve been viewing your current transition

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Deb is a certified life and leadership coach who supports successful women seeking the courage to make pivots. Cultivator of Communities, Deb facilitates courageous conversations with women through group coaching and online communities. She is the host of The Think Courageously Podcast and as a podcaster, she has interviewed over 100 women on what it means to redefine success, courage and pivots. In April 0f 2022, Deb became an Amazon Best-Selling author with 14 other women in the book Elevate Your Voice. Her chapter focuses on her 364-day grief journey and is entitled “Living and Grieving with Courage”.

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[AMY SAYS] EP#453 – Keeping Love Alive – A Peek Inside Our Relationship – Part 2

[AMY SAYS] EP#453 – Keeping Love Alive – A Peek Inside Our Relationship – Part 2

Ever wonder what it really takes to maintain happiness in a long-term relationship? I mean… don’t passions just naturally fizzle and fade for every couple? Aren’t happy couples just for fairy tales and movie magic?

Think about it… It’s HIGHLY likely you know very few couples who have been together for a long period of time who actually still really like each other. I believe there is a reason for that. For many of us, there has never been a handy manual on how-the-hell to communicate, get your needs met, or work on vulnerability. Amiright? Most of what we learn is from whatever example we received from our parents (ugh!), our media, or our life experience which often leave us floundering inside relationships wondering what-the-hell our problem is

Bottom line: It’s totally possible to have a long-term, happy relationship. You just need to know HOW. It’s likely you’ve simply never been taught. In this episode (part 2 of 2), Mr. Smith and I dig into 4 more components we’ve employed in our marriage to keep us connected, thriving, and happy. And guess what? It’s not rocket science, only for the “lucky” ones, or involving tons of time and money. Chances are you can do things TODAY that can radically change the dynamic of your relationship.

This pod explores:

  • How those walls you have built up are doing nothing for your intimacy
  • What it really looks like to communicate effectively with your partner
  • How we (Mr. Smith and I) have unconventionally approached the management of our household and why it creates so much harmony for us
  • How to create shared meaning through traditions and rituals

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[AMY SAYS] EP#452 – Keeping Love Alive – A Peek Inside Our Relationship – Part 1

[AMY SAYS] EP#452 – Keeping Love Alive – A Peek Inside Our Relationship – Part 1

Ever wonder what it really takes to keep love alive long-term? Ever see happy couples and wonder what-the-hell their secret is? (I mean… Considering you’re ready to strangle your spouse… ).

In the twenty-five years we’ve been together, Mr. Smith and I have consistently and repeatedly been asked what our secrets are to not only a long-term marriage but a happy one. Plenty of people stay together, but it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that they aren’t all that happy… maybe just okay… and sometimes flat-out miserable.

So, what does it really take to keep love alive and FUN over multiple decades? Well, you’re in luck. In this episode (which is part 1 of 2), Mr. Smith and I talk candidly and openly about four major factors that have kept our marriage strong, fun, and intimate. And, speaking of rocket science, many of our “secrets” aren’t all that hard… it’s just likely you’ve never been taught. Have a listen and you just may completely change the trajectory of your relationship.

This pod explores:

  • How to stop making your relationship feel like work (Ugh… don’t we already have enough work?)
  • What it means to grow as individuals AND as a couple and where you may be totally sabotaging your partner without knowing it
  • How to make sex important in your relationship… for reals
  • Why you need to speak to your partner like a lover instead of a business partner and our favorite tip to help you start doing so

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[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#451 – Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns + Making Marriage Work With Figs O’sullivan

[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#451 – Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns + Making Marriage Work With Figs O’sullivan

You and your partner are arguing about the same damn thing… yet again.
The same cycle. The same hurt. The same fights. The same pattern.
It feels like you’re banging your head against the wall trying to understand each other, yet you end up consistently feeling lonely, frustrated, and unheard. And maybe you feel like you couldn’t be more clear with what you are desiring for the relationship, yet it seems like your partner looks at you like you’re speaking another language. WTF!?

The cycle of battling for who’s “right” and who is at fault is a typical cycle many couples fall into. You both double down on who’s right and in the meantime, the walls between you grow stronger and more solid. The solution is getting truly vulnerable about what is happening emotionally for each of you, but how-the-hell do you start being vulnerable with someone you clearly don’t feel emotionally safe with!? Spoiler: You don’t.

On this week’s show, I dial up Figs O’Sullivan, a Marriage and Family Therapist, who has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship. We discuss how attachment styles, formed from childhood, affect how we connect (or fail to connect) with our partner, why we can’t just barge into conversations demanding our needs, and the absolute first place you need to start if you want to make marked changes in your relationship.

This pod explores:

  • Understanding the 4 elements of a relationship system – a.k.a. the absolute FIRST thing couples need to understand before making any progress to heal their relationship
  • How to know if you are asking things from your partner from your Vulnerable Self or from your Reactive Self? [Spoiler: It’s usually your Reactive Self]
  • How your worst parts are always the doorways to your best parts (and your partner too!)
  • Why the issues you are arguing about with your partner aren’t the real problem… and how to figure out what they are

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Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy Officer at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with the clients as fellow travelers on life’s journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy.

Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship; they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain,” which led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theatre, experiential psychotherapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, Empathi provides fun, effective and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more.

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[AMY SAYS] EP#450 – When *NOT* to Speak Up + When Grace + Kindness Don’t Work

[AMY SAYS] EP#450 – When *NOT* to Speak Up + When Grace + Kindness Don’t Work

If you’ve hung around these parts for a while, you’ll know that one of the cornerstones of my philosophy is that you can deliver damn-near any sort of information (no matter how difficult) to another person as long as you handle yourself with grace and kindness. I talk much about speaking up for yourself, saying “no”, establishing boundaries and kicking people-pleasing to the curb.

But, are there ever any instances when people-pleasing may actually save your ass? Yes, actually there are. Believe it or not, there are a handful of instances when speaking up for yourself is actually not the best tactic. Whaaaaa!? I know. It seems like that couldn’t possibly be the case, but just like all things in personal development, there are often no absolutes.

And what about those instances when grace and kindness don’t work? What if you’ve been boundary-ing your ass off to no avail? What if you reeeeeally want to just lose your shit on someone? Like, really just let them have it. Perhaps your ex… Maybe a dead-beat parent… Is there ever a time when speaking from anger is justified? Or the best choice even? One listener wrote to the show with this exact quandary so in this episode I share tips on *not* speaking up for yourself, kicking politeness to the curb, and what to do when grace and kindness just don’t work. 

This pod explores:

  • How to know if you’ve really given “grace + kindness” the good college try
  • The number one priority you need to evaluate when deciding if you should speak up or not
  • The three scenarios you likely want to avoid where speaking up may get you in deep shit 
  • My personal story of dealing with a family member who outright ignored my boundary… and what I did about it

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[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#449 – Healthy Boundaries for Kind People with Randi Buckley

[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#449 – Healthy Boundaries for Kind People with Randi Buckley

Tell me if any of this sounds familiar: You are super bothered by something your co-worker has been doing, but instead of addressing it, you come home and recant to your partner what your shitty co-worker did at work today. Or maybe your mom does something that drives you absolutely bat-shit, but you’d rather tell your bestie about it instead of addressing it with your mom directly.

If you’ve fallen into any of these patterns or something similar, you are in great (and vast) company. No one ever teaches us how to identify our needs, let alone express them in a thoughtful and kind way. So, we buy into bullshit society idioms that tell us it’s about “not rocking the boat”, “sweeping it under the rug”, or “not opening up a can of worms”; All of which are code for, shut the fuck up and take care of everyone else’s emotions. Yikes. No wonder we have a difficult time speaking up.

If you’ve hung out with me for any length of time, it’s likely you’ve heard me sound off on boundaries, speaking up, and advocating for yourself. I thought it might be a nice breath of fresh air to bring on another boundary expert to get a different perspective. This week I dialed up Randi Buckley who is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People and got her take on what a boundary actually is (and is not), why context is crucial in establishing boundaries, and how boundary setting can go a bit awry (and what to do instead). 

This pod explores:

  • Why every boundary is different and how to work with Randi’s Holy Trinity of boundary setting
  • How we often opt for long-term regret instead of the short-term discomfort of speaking up for ourselves
  • How People-Pleasing undermines your kindness (and is super disingenuous)
  • Understanding the difference between nice and kindness and why there is room for both

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THIS WEEK’S ‘DIAL AN EXPERT’ GUESTIE

Randi Buckley is an internationally-sought coach, author, and mentor, whose work helps folks find their truth and be at peace with it. She is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, Maybe Baby, and The Deep, and Associate Dean at Skogfjorden, the Norwegian Language Villages. Her past includes coaching at Fortune Five companies, royals making exits, body doubling for Penelope Cruz, hot tubbing with the Grateful Dead, and other true stories people aren’t sure they believe, along with a strong background in counseling and ethics. In her free time she untangles whales from fishing gear in Monterey Bay. Randi does not believe in writing in third person but is doing so anyway. 

You can say howdy at www.randibuckley.com or saddle up on Instagram: www.instagram.com/randi.buckley

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[AMY SAYS] EP#448 – Boundary Deep Dive, Part 2

[AMY SAYS] EP#448 – Boundary Deep Dive, Part 2

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you have undoubtedly heard the notion of “setting boundaries”, but have you ever wondered exactly what that means? Or maybe you drummed up the nerve to tell someone (like, your mom, boss, or bestie) how you really felt about something only to be blatantly ignored? (Or worse… not even taken seriously.)

How do you actually go about establishing boundaries that are clear, respected, and adhered to? It’s hard enough to broach a challenging topic with someone, let alone follow through on your boundary

Here’s the deal… if you’ve been constantly bitchin’ and moanin’ about something, and you’ve been super vocal about it to everyone, except the person who really needs to know you’re (ah-hem) “upset”, then it’s probably time to have a tough convo. In this week’s episode, Part 2 of 2, I finish sharing my three-step process to establishing boundaries in a way in which you can be heard and own your personal power.

This pod explores:

  • What-the-hell a boundary even is
  • The tell-tale place to find where a boundary is sorely needed
  • My three-step process to having these challenging convos
  • What to do if someone flat-out doesn’t accept your request

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