Tell me if any of this sounds familiar: You are super bothered by something your co-worker has been doing, but instead of addressing it, you come home and recant to your partner what your shitty co-worker did at work today. Or maybe your mom does something that drives you absolutely bat-shit, but you’d rather tell your bestie about it instead of addressing it with your mom directly.
If you’ve fallen into any of these patterns or something similar, you are in great (and vast) company. No one ever teaches us how to identify our needs, let alone express them in a thoughtful and kind way. So, we buy into bullshit society idioms that tell us it’s about “not rocking the boat”, “sweeping it under the rug”, or “not opening up a can of worms”; All of which are code for, shut the fuck up and take care of everyone else’s emotions. Yikes. No wonder we have a difficult time speaking up.
If you’ve hung out with me for any length of time, it’s likely you’ve heard me sound off on boundaries, speaking up, and advocating for yourself. I thought it might be a nice breath of fresh air to bring on another boundary expert to get a different perspective. This week I dialed up Randi Buckley who is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People and got her take on what a boundary actually is (and is not), why context is crucial in establishing boundaries, and how boundary setting can go a bit awry (and what to do instead).
This pod explores:
- Why every boundary is different and how to work with Randi’s Holy Trinity of boundary setting
- How we often opt for long-term regret instead of the short-term discomfort of speaking up for ourselves
- How People-Pleasing undermines your kindness (and is super disingenuous)
- Understanding the difference between nice and kindness and why there is room for both
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You can say howdy at www.randibuckley.com or saddle up on Instagram: www.instagram.com/randi.buckley
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