Ever have conversations with your spouse and think, “Damn, that statement sounded awfully manipulative… is he just trying to get me to do what he wants? Am I crazy for over-thinking this?” Or maybe it’s the other way around… Maybe you offer up some advice to your partner, possibly suggesting a workout he may dig or how work could be smoother for him, and he yells, “You’re always trying to change me!” And, you’re like, “Um. No. You were just bitching about work, so naturally I told you what you should do about it!” And, you keep butting heads… keep having breakdowns in communication. And, it stifles your connection, trust, and vulnerability.
Recently, a listener wrote in to the show asking how to handle being called “a manipulator” by her partner when she is pretty sure she isn’t one. I mean… how does one know if one is a manipulator? Perhaps you have come up against similar communication barriers with your partner. Maybe you haven’t been called “a manipulator” per se, but perhaps you’ve been accused of “nothing ever being good enough” or “always trying to change me”. Most of the time, what the two of you are up against is a serious disconnect in communication… and listening to one another. Have a listen and learn the difference between straight-up manipulation and an un-intentional breakdown in communication.
This pod explores:
The number one factor to look for in order to figure out if your partner is a manipulator
How your unsolicited advice is likely killing the communication in your partnership
How to figure out if your intention is pure (Hint: It usually is, it’s just expressed poorly)
EXACT phrasing to use to approach challenging topics with your partner without coming across bossy, forceful, or manipulative
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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___________ Let me ask you a question. What does “self-acceptance” mean to you? If you’re like many people, you may think that if you accept yourself as is, that must mean that you will become complacent and all of a sudden not want to accomplish any goals. If you accept yourself at this weight, does that mean you won’t try to tone up and get into those skinnies? If you accept yourself and you’re not in a job that lights you up, does that mean you’ll resign yourself to die in that damn cubicle?
If any of those thought patterns sound familiar, you are certainly not alone. Many people think that if you choose to love and accept yourself NOW, then you are also accepting complacency and stagnation. In this episode, I debunk this myth and look at how loving and accepting yourself can actually catapult you into action… not only accomplishing goals and dreams, but also having a damn good time on the journey.
If you often say, “I’ll be happy as soon as I lose this last 10 lbs.” or have only motivated yourself through being a big ‘ol bitch to yourself, you need to have a listen and start crafting a different way.
This pod explores:
Why you need to separate how you feel about yourself from the goals you want to achieve
How to figure out if you’ve been motivating yourself with self-hate and negative messaging (and, yes, I get it, this does get you into action… it just feels like shit)
The main thing that HAS TO happen if you’re serious about accepting yourself (and how it relates to cults… I shit you not)
How to change your relationship to “self-acceptance” by acknowledging your biggest triggers
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re serious about creating lasting and powerful change in your life, I urge you to read all about Deep, Down + Dirty and see if it’s just the ass kicking you may be needing.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get aaaaaall the info. #yourewelcome
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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AA listener wrote to the show expressing concern that “I have different dreams and goals than my partner” and wondered what she should do about this prob. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you have different spiritual beliefs than your partner that often lead to heated conversations. Or maybe you would love to eventually quite your job and travel the world, but your spouse doesn’t ever want to move. Maybe you’re a vegan, and your spouse’s carnivorous ways hurt your heart. Or perhaps you would love babies and your partner doesn’t want to touch that with a 9-foot pole.
Having different life goals, visions, beliefs, and dreams than your partner can certainly be divisive, but it doesn’t always have to mean the end of the union. In this episode I offer three major concepts you can use to look at the big picture of your relationship and see if the issues you are battling in your relationship are deal-breakers. I also end the episode with a handful of journal prompts you can use to evaluate the state of your unique situation.
Have a listen, um… because thinking that things would totally be awesome if only your spouse would change sure isn’t working. Amiright?!
This pod explores:
Why you don’t always have to understand one another in order to support each other
What-the-hell core values are and why they are imperative to navigating opposition in your relationship
The difference between compromise and settling (hint: one is awesome, and one not so much)
How to grow together and individually, even if you aren’t always on the same page
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INTERESTED IN DEEP, DOWN + DIRTY?
OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re serious about creating lasting and powerful change in your life, I urge you to read all about Deep, Down + Dirty and see if it’s just the ass kicking you may be needing.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get aaaaaall the info. #yourewelcome
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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This week’s episode comes to you courtesy of a listener submission asking how to cultivate trust in relationships when one has created a reality of building up walls and allowing very few people “in”. Sound familiar?
Learning to trust? Sure. I’ll get right on that.
Maybe you can relate. Maybe people say nice things to you and you always question their motives. Maybe you have a tendency to distrust your partner because your ex was an asshole. Maybe you have a hard time making new friends because deep down you’re worried about being judged or abandoned like your parents did to you in your youth. If any of that sounds eerily familiar, babe, you are certainly in good company.
This week, I look at 6, specific [baby] steps you can take in order to alter your relationship to trust without, you know, feeling super unsafe and freaking-the-fuck-out. Believe it or not, you may actually have a ton of evidence around you that people can be trusted… you just haven’t been looking for that “proof”. Have a listen and learn how to know who to trust, what that actually looks like, and what sweet connection awaits you when you do.
This pod explores:
Why you need to stop saying “I have trust issues”
How to forgive those who have caused you to distrust, even though you’re still pissed at them
How to gather evidence of the trustworthiness all around you
The #1 phrase to listen for that your inner shit-talker will surely start using on you as you begin this process
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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If you’ve been involved in personal development or self-help for awhile, surely you have come into some conflicting information around managing your inner critic, what that actually means, and how to really do it. Although it’s #amaze that there are so many people spreading positive messages out there, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t some seriously problematic ideas being conveyed about what it means to “successfully” contend with your inner voice.
If you’ve seen memes floating around Facebook or Insta telling you to just love and accept yourself and speaking kindly to yourself and all your problems will magically disappear, honey you are not alone. And, it can feel downright discouraging and defeating when you actually DO start speaking kindly to yourself and the heavens don’t part and make way for unicorns giving out ice cream. In this episode, I thought it would be fun to do a little game of True or False with Mr. Smith to see if I’ve been accurately painting a realistic picture of what it really looks like to manage an inner critic on the regs.
Have a listen, play along, and see how you do on this round of seven True or False statements! You’ve got this!
This pod explores:
The ways in which our Inner Critics communicate with us (hint: more than one, babycakes!)
What fear has to do with our internal conversation
How and when to use positive affirmations (this answer may surprise you!)
The next step you need to take to get this inner voice under control
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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If you’re like most people, you have an overwhelming sense of excitement and ambition come the new year. Also like most people, perhaps you hit Jan gang-busters-style, but when Feb comes around you have slowly begun to lose steam, fervor, and action. Many people (and maybe YOU) enter the New Year with tons of plans and intentions, but somehow end up a bit off track sooner than later.
In this episode, I address the biggest obstacles people unknowingly establish for themselves when crafting New Year’s goals and “resolutions”. Yep, you read that right… many people actually make their job a shit-ton harder by not setting themselves up for success to begin with. I also share my personal planning tool I use to be sure I establish solid goals in aaaaall areas of my life (not just fitness and money… but, yes, those too). Be sure to grab your free download so you can plan and organize a seriously epic 2017 by figuring out what categories in which you would like to make headway. Plus, you’ll have a sexy, little worksheet to record all your brilliance!
This pod explores:
The two biggest mistakes people make when crafting goals for the new year
How to assess where you are in your life now and where you want to be in a year’s time
How to create goals that are really about YOUR fulfillment, are totally attainable, and light you up
Why you probably don’t want to celebrate your 2016 accomplishments, but you kinda, absolutely MUST
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
Ever find yourself saying, “As soon as I get a new job, then I’ll be happy” or “If I could just shed this extra weight, then I’ll really start living” or something similar? Ever wonder how to love yourself when you feel soooo far away from where you want to be?
For many of us, we take the goals we want to achieve and collapse them with our self worth. When we do this, we allow ourselves to stay in a place of self-loathing UNTIL we accomplish our goals instead of allowing ourselves self-love through the journey.
If you aren’t crazy about your current set of circumstances and you know it’s dramatically affecting your self-worth, this episode is just what you need. This pod explores:
How to figure out what meaning you’ve assigned to your goals
How to love yourself NOW, even if you are unhappy in your current situation
How to make your goals 100% in service of YOU
Self-talk tips to support your new relationship to the things you want to change in your life
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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Recently, in one of my classes, the topic came up about how our relationships start to change as we get further and further into personal development. Sometimes you come up against some opposition from a handful of peeps in your life who don’t really love the “new, empowered you”… The “you” who is setting boundaries. The “you” who is standing up for themselves. And, we’ve discussed this on the pod in the past as a very real growing pain of pushing yourself to be the person you want to be in this world… as opposed to what everyone else wants.
But… something we haven’t talked about as much on the pod is the multitude of other ways that your relationships start to change as you begin to grow and take a stand for yourself. And, often, when you’re in the painful, murky waters of looking at all your shit, you just want to know that something good is going to be on the other side. I mean… tell me that I will love my life even if I’m setting all these boundaries… it won’t always be this hard, right? RIGHT!?
So, this week, I thought I would dig into 6 ways that self-love radically impacts your relationships FOR THE BETTER. So, that you can look at this journey through the lens of what you’re gaining instead of what feels painful. Have a listen and change your perspective on this challenge we call Personal Growth.
This pod explores:
How loving yourself changes how you address what you need in a given relationship
How self-love changes how much you blame others (like, if only my mom wasn’t such a nag… )
How valuing yourself changes the sorts of relationships you are willing to tolerate
The absolute BEST side effect of cultivating your worth and self-love (Hint: It involves other badasses)
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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Tell me if this sounds familiar: You have a conversation with someone and you weren’t sure about how you came across to the other person, so you spend hours (or days) replaying the convo in your head, convincing yourself that they must totally think you’re an asshole or an idiot, or whatever, and before you know it, you’ve totally fabricated an entire scenario that doesn’t even exist and you’re convinced that person hates you and you might as well move out of the country.
Whew! So, yeah, I’ve gone down that rabbit hole a number of times. It can be so easy to allow our ambitious and creative minds to completely run away and jump to massive conclusions that are often extremely unfounded and also highly unlikely. We do the same thing with how we speak to ourselves too. We think “If that guy doesn’t want to see me again, I must be a total loser who is damaged and unlovable.” Wait. What!? Yeah, total jump to a ridiculous conclusion.
In this episode, I examine how we do this behavior in our own minds and also in our relationship to other people. Have a listen and learn some concrete tools to help you evade this common conclusion trap.
This pod explores:
The most common way we jump to detrimental conclusions about ourselves (and how to switch it!)
How to stop making up completely false and unfounded scenarios in your mind
How to focus on the facts of the situation instead of creating stories
How to gather nessessary information to stop your anxious mind
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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IIf you’ve hung out with me for a while, you know that I’ve spoken often about NOT apologizing for yourself in regards to your wants, opinions, needs, and desires… As long as you express those wants, opinions, needs, and desires with grace + kindness. Through my work, and talking on this subject frequently, I’ve realized that there is a slippery way we apologize for ourselves through over-explaining.
Perhaps you can identify with this idea. I mean… the last time you were unable to make it to an event, did you simply decline or did you give a lengthy explanation why you couldn’t make it? Or how ’bout over-explaining a decision you’ve made… like, not wanting kids or opting to be vegan or moving across the country or getting tattooed. Are you comfortable just stating that or do you feel the need to explain WHY you made those choices?
Listen, there are certainly going to be those people in your life who you love having convos with about the various choices you’ve made. And then… And then, there’s aaaaall those other instances where you really don’t want to get sucked into the 3rd degree about why you aren’t married yet. Amiright? In this episode, I’ll help you sort through where you tend to get sucked into the over-explaining trap, how to know if you really want to engage in the convo, and how to find some serious confidence in your choices, opinions, and stances.
This pod explores:
How to identify where you tend to over-explain yourself (what triggers you)
How to know when you actually do want to explain where you’re coming from, what choices you’ve made, or opinions you hold dear
How to get out of answering questions you don’t have any interest in answering… without being an asshole about it
The most common way people tend to over-explain themselves when it’s absolutely not necessary
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
