Have you ever wanted to negotiate a salary increase but weren’t really sure how? Or if you even deserved it? Have you had someone tell you that you are “too much”, “too loud”, or “too emotional”? And, then you shrink a little bit and proceed to dull your own shine. Have you ever looked around your life and noticed that you don’t have all that much fun anymore… like, whatever happened to pleasure? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, it’s probably high-time you took up a bit more space and started to Make. Some. Damn. Noise. Already.
Ok, Amy, that sounds fucking great, but HOW!? I’m so glad you asked. On this week’s show, I’m thrilled to dial up an expert on the subject of making some noise – My very own bestie, Andrea Owen. In her third book (available end of August 2021), Andrea looks at the myriad of ways that women silence themselves in their lives, ultimately keeping them small and disempowered.
Creep our conversation where we discuss the role that religion, the patriarchy, and internalized misogyny play on how women feel about themselves and their choices. And, in turn, why we often don’t speak up, don’t ask for what we want, and continue to put everyone in front of ourselves… and what-the-hell we can do about it. If you’re ready for a serious dose of confidence, personal power, and a bit of rebellion, grab a pen, my friend.
This pod explores:
What to do if you’ve always been told you are “too much” or “too loud” or “too sensitive”
What it really means for women to start asking for what they want (and why we often don’t)
Andrea’s 4-step process to “Unlearning” the behaviors that have kept you small
What “pleasure” has to do with empowerment and why you probably need more of it
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Andrea Owen is an author, global speaker, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, and master resilience. She has taught hundreds of thousands of women tools and strategies to be able to empower themselves to live their most kick-ass life through speaking, her books, coaching, and her wildly popular podcast with over 3 million downloads.
Andrea is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) from The Coaches Training Institute, a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation, a SHE RECOVERS® coach, as well as a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator; a modality based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown.
When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or writing books, Andrea is busy riding her Peloton bike, chasing her two school-aged children or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.
Ever find yourself stressed out because of events happening at work, and when you get home you find a perfect opportunity to be critical of your partner for not putting their shoes away? Or loading the dishwasher properly? Or missing an important payment? Or maybe you can relate to feeling dismissed or micromanaged by your boss so you tend to be critical every time you speak about her to your bestie? Whenever we have a need that isn’t getting met, we can tend to put up our defenses and use the armor of criticism to express ourselves. And, you guessed it, it often is met with more dismissal or defensiveness and now everyone is blaming everyone. Supes productive, amiright!? [she says sarcastically]
Ugh. So, what is one to do if you find yourself in a relationship (with a partner, work colleague, family member, whoever) where criticism is a constant? Maybe you’ve even found yourself starting to resent this other person or beginning to distance yourself from them because it’s a non-stop criticism battle. Fortunately, all is certainly not lost.
On this week’s pod, I’m thrilled to dial up an expert on the subject of navigating criticism in relationships. Dr. Jessica Higgins has two graduate degrees in psychology (hello, Doctah!), not to mention over 20 years experience in helping people alter their perception and communication to cultivate much richer and deeper connections. So, yeah, she’s kinda a big deal. Listen in to this content-packed convo where we discuss aaaaaall the things you can do to kick unproductive criticism to the curb.
This pod explores:
The first thing you need to do after a big blowout with someone where criticism has been running rampant
What can happen in your relationship if constant criticism isn’t addressed and dealt with
Jessica’s favorite question to ask oneself after a partner has been super critical of you
Understanding what criticism sounds like and how we ALL do it and WHY we do it
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results.
As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her online courses and coaching, clients transform pain into love and connection.
So, your partner gives you a little nudge that *maybe* you could do something a bit differently and you Totally. Fly. Off. The. Handle. Or maybe your bestie gently suggests that you may want to try to actually DO something about the shit-job you are always complaining about and you completely chew him out. If you have a hard time with feedback (uh-hem, criticism), you are certainly not alone, my friend.
In fact, we are actually wired to defend ourselves if we feel attacked, so OF COURSE your knee-jerk reaction is to spout off reciprocal accusations and cast blame in the opposite direction. Listen, I’m not saying that your partner or your bestie is always in the right, but what I am saying is that it would likely serve you to dig a bit deeper and call yourself out on your shit.
How? I’m so glad you asked. In this week’s episode, I discuss what to look for when experiencing criticism from others, how to know if there is any validity, and how to not let the whole damn thing destroy you. Not that I would know anything about that… [she says snidely].
This pod explores:
How to know if you actually need to even listen to this criticism or not (And, yes, there are times when you can straight-up ignore the critic)
What to do in the moment when you are about to unleash a beast on someone giving you a bit of feedback
How to figure out if it’s a “You” issue or a “Them” issue… or both
The first step you MUST take if you want to move through the criticism gracefully (even if the other person is an asshat)
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Remember when the Law of Attraction was all the rage and everyone thought (maybe even you) that you could simply think about a million dollars and boom! it would suddenly be in your bank account… or magically under your mattress? Yeah. Me too. There is actually waaaay more to manifesting what you want in your life, especially if what you want is a lifelong love and partner. Permanent swipe right!
Continuing our series on manifesting a soulmate, I’m chatting with Victoria Gallagher who is a world renowned leader in hypnotherapy and an authority on Law of Attraction. We dig into how we’re all constantly manifesting but we’re often stuck in such a negative spiral that we constantly attract more evidence that we are not lovable or “not enough”. And the cycle continues.
Victoria shares her personal story of manifesting her husband, how long it took, and what she needed to let go of in order to be truly open and ready for love. We shed light on some serious myths and misconceptions about LOA and how it can apply to damn near anything in your life… not just manifesting an intimate partnership. If you want to unlock the ways you may be getting in your own way and start making shit happen already, time to grab a notebook and your earbuds. Enjoy.
This pod explores:
The single biggest reason people fail to manifest what they want
Victoria’s approach to manifesting your soulmate
Victoria’s personal story of what she needed to do [and let go of] to attract her husband
The first step you must take in order to call in “The One”
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Victoria Gallagher is a worldwide leader in Hypnotherapy, a best-selling author, international speaker, life success coach, and renowned authority on the Law of Attraction. She has dedicated her life to empowering people all over the world to successfully live a life of liberty, aligned with their dreams through her effective meditative recordings and online courses.
As a tireless personal growth enthusiast herself, Victoria hosts the popular Law of Attraction show The Power of Your Mind podcast featuring industry experts. The Power of Your Mind is a self help podcast helping listeners unleash the power of their mind. Victoria Gallagher shares over 20 years of wisdom and techniques in hypnotherapy, Law of Attraction, visualization, NLP, meditation, personal growth, positive affirmations and other effective methods to help listeners tap into the great power which resides in their mind, and become the best version of themselves.
You can find more about the book referenced in this episode as well as Victoria’s book on attracting a soulmate by visiting her site. You can also find Victoria on:
What if someone told you three specific questions you need to ask yourself after every date to know if you should continue on to the second date? What if someone could outline the exact mindset you’ve been stuck in that is arresting you from attracting your soulmate? What if someone could spell out why most relationships only last a few years and end with a serious power struggle and you know… what you can actually do about it. You’d be all over it, right!? You’re in luck, my love.
On the show this week, I dial up Kira Sabin, a dear friend, colleague and a powerhouse in the field of attracting love and creating thriving relationships. She shares six specific mindsets that women often get locked into that completely thwarts their ability to attract lasting and meaningful relationships.
In this candid conversation, we discuss the areas where women tend to get in their own way, tactics to alter your mindset around love, and how to set yourself up for a rich and fulfilling relationship. And, please don’t be fooled… this episode is NOT only about intimate partnerships. There is something to be gleaned for any woman struggling to believe in her own “enoughness”. Get into it.
This pod explores:
Six major disempowering mindsets that can get in the way of attracting the love of your life
Five stages of relationships and why so many people get stuck in stage 1 or 2
Why dating for “potential” makes you an asshole
Kira’s formula of 3 questions you must ask after a date to set yourself up for success
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
Kira is one-part unicorn (actual genetics, look it up), one-part sweary fairy godmother and all-parts devoted to helping you realize that you are not fucked up, broken or unlovable … and helping singles get out of their own way to get happiness, love and a mind-blowingly beautiful relationship where you wake up feeling loved every. single. day.
If you’ve been coming up empty in the dating arena and are wondering what you’re doing wrong, this two-part episode is going to be your jam. Here’s the deal: Unless you’ve had some sort of magical, utopian guide on dating, it’s likely that you’ve learned how to date and be in relationship through trial and error, your parent’s [awesome] example, and/or a barrage of confusing commentary about what’s “normal” and “realistic” from our hyperbolic media.
So, how does one find “the one”? Kismet? Chant some magic words or build an altar? Online dating? [starts to pull teeth out] I feel you. Because I wanted to equip you with everything in YOUR power to call in your dream-boat, I created this two-part pod series to teach you how to get crystal clear on what you want in a partner, and in this second edition in particular, what you can actually DO about it. If you’ve been feeling like the cards are stacked against you, get ready to feel super empowered and excited about what your future holds. (Not just swipe-right kind of excited.)
This pod explores:
What (and who) you need to stop doing if you are serious about getting down to biz with finding your heart’s twin
How to know what action to take to put yourself out there… without feeling like you’d rather eat a shit sandwich
How your inability to receive compliments and kindnesses from others could be negatively affecting your dating life
How to stay positive and encourage yourself throughout the process (even if you’d rather just blame your ex for everything)
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Did you grab your free cheat-sheet that accompanies this episode? Get on it, Babycakes! Here’s the deal: our brain takes things waaaaay more seriously when we get out of our heads and get our thoughts/commitments out on paper. It’s like, science.
So, OF COURSE I want you to make some serious changes and start #manifesting, so be sure you have your Pod #402 worksheets with you while you (re) listen to this pod so you can get into some serious action. Trust… if you just listen and don’t DO, you’re not going to manifest shit.
So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image above to get your freebies sent directly to your inbox! #yourewelcome
We get bombarded with messages about what true love looks like, but when we look around we don’t often see a shit-ton of fairytale romances. Or partnerships that are even happy, let alone blissful. So what does it really take to manifest your soulmate? I mean… are some people just lucky and everyone else is screwed? Hardly.
Here’s the deal… No one ever teaches us how to prepare ourselves to be in a relationship. So, what happens? We usually just jump in and learn as we go… over-riding our intuition, ignoring warning signs, and inevitably taking on a bunch of “projects”.
In this pod, I’ll have you dig into your deepest, truest desires for a partner. You’ll uncover what they look like, act like, what your life looks like together, and who you intend to be inside your relationship. We’re dreamin’ this week and next week we’ll be schemin’. This episode is the first of a two-part series I have created to equip you with all the tools necessary to summon up your soulie. Don’t worry… you don’t have to chant, or burn anyone’s hair, or pray to an altar. In fact, you already have everything you need. Intrigued? Have a listen.
This pod explores:
What to do with your pesky Inner Critic while you manifest your soulie (the one who tells you you’re being too picky and unrealistic… yeah, you know the one)
The number one reason why you haven’t found your heart’s twin yet (and it’s super simple to fix!)
My favorite exercise I’ve given clients and students to manifest their partner and I shit you not, I’ve been invited to five weddings because of it! (One I even officiated!)
Why you HAVE to tell the universe what you want in a partner (because the opposite SUCKS!)
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FREE WORKSHEETS WITH THIS EPISODE!
GRAB YOURS BELOW!
Did you grab your free cheat-sheet that accompanies this episode? Get on it, Babycakes! Here’s the deal: our brain takes things waaaaay more seriously when we get out of our heads and get our thoughts/commitments out on paper. It’s like, science.
So, OF COURSE I want you to make some serious changes and start #manifesting, so be sure you have your Pod #401 worksheets with you while you (re) listen to this pod so you can get into some serious action. Trust… if you just listen and don’t DO, you’re not going to manifest shit.
So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image above to get your freebies sent directly to your inbox! #yourewelcome
Ever wonder what it really takes to keep love alive long-term? Ever see happy couples and wonder what-the-hell their secret is? (I mean… Considering you’re ready to strangle your spouse… like, always).
In the near twenty-four years we’ve been together, Mr. Smith and I have consistently and repeatedly been asked what our secrets are to not just a long-term marriage but a happy one. Plenty of people stay together, but it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that they aren’t all that happy… maybe just okay… and sometimes flat-out miserable.
So, what does it really take to keep love alive and FUN over multiple decades? Well, you’re in luck. In this episode, Mr. Smith is back on the show and we candidly and openly talk about six major factors that have kept our marriage strong, fun, and intimate. And, speaking of rocket science, many of our “secrets” aren’t all that hard… it’s just likely you’ve never been taught. Have a listen and you just may completely change the trajectory of your relationship.
This pod explores:
How to stop making your relationship feel like work (Ugh… don’t we already have enough work?)
What it means to grow as individuals AND as a couple and where you may be totally sabotaging your partner without knowing it
How to make sex important in your relationship… for reals
Why you need to speak to your partner like a lover instead of a business partner and our favorite tip to help you start doing so
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
What if I told you your handwriting speaks volumes (no pun intended) about your confidence, self-esteem, ability to speak up for yourself, and how much concern you take with the opinions of others? You’d be like, “Now, wait. What!? Come again?” I know, I know. Stay with me. Believe it or not, it’s actually part of a scientific process called our Ideomotor Response which refers to the way we communicate our subconscious thoughts through our physical being… a.k.a. Handwriting. (Pssst… it’s also how ouija boards work too, so SPOILER ALERT, it wasn’t your deceased Aunt Helen trying to convey a message to you.)
A few years ago, I went through a wildly fascinating certification in Handwriting Analysis and I think you may find this tool surprisingly helpful in setting and establishing boundaries. Not to mention that it’s super easy and simple… it may be one of the easiest personal growth tools you ever use. Like, you literally just write a bit differently. You in?
In this episode, I spill some little-known secrets on how slight alterations to your handwriting can change how often and how well you speak up for yourself. If you like to geek out on the hybrid of science and woo, this is up your alley. Get out a blank sheet of paper and a pen and get ready to boundary your ass off.
This episode explores:
Understanding the Ideomotor Response and how it registers in our handwriting
What you need to do with the margins of your page if you want to establish boundaries
The letter that symbolizes communication and how you can shape them to better speak up for yourself
The serial killer’s handwriting sample I reviewed during my certification and what it indicated about them
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
What if you could listen in to a coaching session where someone is being coached on how to establish much-needed boundaries with overbearing and controlling siblings? You’d be all over it, right? I mean… who hasn’t struggled to set up boundaries with family. Hello! In this coaching episode, I work with a lovely and highly accomplished woman, Isabel, on her constant struggle to be heard and taken seriously as the youngest of five siblings.
When I asked how she struggled to set and enforce boundaries, here is what she shared with me:
I need help with my family! I have three older sisters, and two of them think they are my mothers and have tried to boss me around my whole life. I’m almost 47, and it is time for this to stop! There are no boundaries — they voice their opinion on my religious practices (or rather lack thereof), that I moved to another state (can’t imagine why I would want to do that!), that I chose not to have children, etc.
Nothing is sacred or private, and it has gotten so much worse since my Dad passed this past March. I am so thankful to finally be aware of all this and the fact that it needs to stop, but I could really use your help in implementing these changes. Four plus decades of bad behavior is hard to turn around!
In this episode, I help Isabel work through her family dynamic and the constant need to “sweep everything under the rug” which has often led to resentment and many vitriolic eruptions. We discuss some specific things she can do to get ahead of tough conversations with her sisters, how to not get caught up in the emotion, and how to follow through on the boundaries she sets. Be sure to have your pen and paper handy and get ready to swipe Isabel’s homework for your own!
This pod explores:
Specific verbiage to use when a family member catches you off-guard or if they are yelling and name-calling
How to approach a difficult conversation with an abrasive and controlling family member
How to identify both the surface issue and the root issue (aka the real issue) of what you and your family may not see eye to eye about
My favorite tool to examine what stories you may be making up about your family
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.
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