So, I don’t roll with the punches. I’m not super “easy-going” and not up for “whatever”. I certainly don’t go with the mother-fucking flow.
I love order, structure, and planning. And, you want to know why I don’t LOVE to roll with the punches?
Because it’s Just. Not. Me.
And, I grew mighty sick of apologizing for who I am a loooong time ago.
Now, this little badass stance I’ve adopted certainly hasn’t always been the case. I used to feel that if there was some sort of trait I (or society) deemed attractive or desired… I must somehow fit this square peg into all those round holes. So, in honor of square pegs everywhere who may think the only road to acceptance (and therefore, happiness) must mean round contortions, here is a lovely list of things I refuse to apologize for… or over-explain, for that matter. Ever again.
I will no longer apologize because:
I’m high-maintenance, love all things girly, + take a hot minute to get ready
I’m not that into music [gasp!!]
I absolutely hate spontaneity + most outdoor activities
I don’t censor my thoughts or feelings
I have a fucking sailor mouth
I love order, control, + stability
I have no desire or interest in being a mother
I’m not a fan of “traditional women’s roles” + don’t cook + hire someone to clean
And, I’m a life coach who actually watches Keeping up with the Kardashians. I know.
Whew! So, that felt good to get out. So, how ’bout you? Are there components to who you are, that you constantly feel the need to apologize for… or possibly OVER-EXPLAIN? Things that your fam doesn’t get? Your spouse doesn’t get? Perhaps things you’ve made up in your mind just aren’t okay to embody?
A slight caveat here… I soooo believe in apologizing. But, ONLY if you’ve made a mess. If you fucked up. But, here’s the thing… we don’t ONLY apologize when we’ve made a mess. We apologize for WHO. WE. ARE. Our choices. Our stances. Our decisions. And, one of the biggest ways this plays out in our lives is by over-explaining. Feeling as though we owe people some sort of rationale, explanation, or reason why we feel a certain way. Or, why we ARE a certain way.
Allow me to tell you a story. I’m 35. I married my soul-mate when I was 20. We’ve been blissfully married for 15 years, together for 17. From day one, everyone in our orbit asked us when we were going to have children. In my snide, acerbic manner, I loved to retort, “Oh… no, we really don’t like children.” (I’ve always been a smart-ass, just not always an enlightened smartass). Although, I felt comfortable and certain with our choice, I did feel a never-ending pull to explain our position to everyone we encountered. Elaborately.
It wasn’t until years later, and much personal growth work and introspection, that I came to the realization that I didn’t owe anyone ANY explanation. And, not just for that choice. For anything.
So, I turn this to you. What would shift if you actually didn’t feel the need to apologize or over-explain your choices, thoughts, characteristics, or affinities? What would change if you just didn’t ever entertain the “explanation”? If you could actually bullet point the things that make you, YOU, which you will no longer apologize for, what would they be?
And, most importantly, what will you actually DO differently? Not just reading a lovely article about taking a stand for yourself and then doing jack-shit with it. I’m serious. Write out a list. A list of all the things you will no longer apologize for or over-explain. And, actually IMPLEMENT it. Set boundaries. Walk away or excuse yourself from conversations. Hang up the phone. Whatever.
Let’s be honest. No one is going to offer you a free pass to actually be yourself. Unless you do. Your move, Ace.
EEver find yourself in a tiff with a loved one and all of a sudden you feel responsible to clean up the mess even though you still feel like you didn’t really do anything wrong? It can be so challenging to stick to your guns and handle yourself with grace when there are people in your life who would rather throw things and yell. In this episode, Amy addresses a listener’s concerns about a family fight and how to work with this sticky situation. Amy covers a five-step process to dealing with people being PISSED at you and exactly what to do about it. This pod explores:
How to give yourself the permission to be totally hurt and bummed out when someone is upset with you
How to know if you should listen to anything the opposition has said
How to create a hierarchy around criticism and rejection in your life (a.k.a. Some stuff matters, some stuff doesn’t)
How to process the pissiness and move on
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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IIf you are like most people, chances are you find yourself heavily invested in what others think… of you… of your choices… of everything. And, oftentimes it completely infringes on you living the richest life possible. You spin your wheels catering to others and trying to make them happy, many times at a major cost to you and your fulfillment. Whether this behavior was instilled in you as a child or whether you developed it over time, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is YOU taking back the reins of your life. In this episode, Amy looks at a handful of key concepts to aid you in speaking up for yourself. This pod explores:
How to analyze if you are surrounded by people who support you or guilt you
How to navigate what “selfish” really looks like and why you most likely need to be a bit more selfish
How to know when (and when not) to speak up for yourself
Easy-to-implement baby steps for taking a stand for yourself and your opinions
How to say “no” with grace
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
WWhen you find yourself super upset with someone in your life, it can be very challenging to communicate in an effective way. Many people simply communicate (a.k.a. fight) by screaming their heads off, hurling insults, and wonder why they aren’t getting their point across. In this episode, Amy looks at four ways to disagree and even argue with someone AND still be kind in doing so. This pod explores:
How to know what you are (and are not) responsible for
How to have a candid, non-charged convo with your partner to establish a system for arguing
How to know if it’s a battle you even need to fight
How to disagree in a way in which you are proud of yourself
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
NNo matter how grounded you are in your own personal growth, there are undoubtedly times of hardship that you have or will go through that prove extremely challenging and trying. So what is an evolved spirit to do when shit seriously hits the fan; When you lose a job, have to deal with death, divorce, a law suit or some other seriously trying event? In this episode, Amy digs into a listener’s question on how to stay grounded and positive during a really, rough life event. You’ll learn 6 tangible tools you can immediately implement to shift your perspective around your current set of circumstances. This pod explores:
How your chosen perspective completely dictates your reality
How to examine if your current set of beliefs is helping or hurting the situation
Details on an awesome “no complaining” challenge
Why radical self-care during these times are paramount and what exactly self-care looks like
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
FFind yourself wishing that you and your partner had a richer connection, but have no idea how to create deeper intimacy? Many people don’t take the path towards intimacy… the path of true vulnerability. It can be so much easier to keep your walls up and not let anyone in, which, in turn, also leads to quite a bit less intimacy. In this episode, Amy looks at what this trade-off really looks like and how to increase your intimacy with your partner in ways that aren’t super scary. This pod explores:
What-the-hell intimacy even means
How to create daily practices that dramatically increase the intimacy of your relationship
Super-fun and easy ideas to cultivate connection with your partner
Overlooked ways to create physical intimacy with your partner
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
EEver find yourself stalling on goals because you feel muddled and lack clarity? It can be such a challenge to figure out exactly what you want, why you want it, and if you’re really doing this “thing” for the right reasons. In this episode Amy breaks down a simple five-step approach to getting clarity on areas in your life that you KNOW you need to make some movement in, yet you are paralyzed with fear about making the right choice. Need clarity around your career? Your fitness? Your relationship? This guidance will get you jumpstarted and easily outline exactly what choice needs to be made. This pod explores:
Which decisions will impact you the most and in the shortest amount of time
How to figure out what is getting in the way of your clarity
Easy tools to use your heart for guidance v. your head
How to research and play to find exactly what your options are
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
WWe all know that in order to have a great relationship it’s necessary to work on solid communication, work through our differences of opinion, and spend quality time together. But, what about the things that we often overlook that contribute to a healthy, thriving relationship? There are a handful of relationship skills that can create a HUGE difference in your connection and happiness but are oftentimes overlooked. Based off a recent HuffPo article, Amy examines a collection of topics that you may be overlooking that will create massive change with a bit of attention. This pod explores:
How to balance taking care of YOU and taking care of US
“Get to Know Each Other” Strategies for everyone… even couples who have been together for decades
How the long-lost art of optimism can dramatically change how you view trouble in your relationship
Why the “little shit” that pisses you off is SOOOO important to address
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
Ever feel like you know exactly what your *supposed* to do to get over an ex, start a new biz, get in shape, etc, but find yourself sabotaging all your efforts to create what you really want in your life? Congrats. You are totally normal. In this episode, Amy digs into why we often self-sabotage in areas where we really want to create a shift, what you can do to examine this behavior, and how to shift to more empowering actions. This pod explores:
How to get to the bottom of your self-sabotage and figure out the underlying, driving force to destructive behavior
How to fulfill your desires in a way that is healthy and moves you toward the results you desire
Specialized tools to increase your awareness around your choice of behaviors
How to call yourself out on your behavioral excuses
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
EEver find your heart breaking because you see your partner going through such a tough time and you can’t, for the life of you, figure out how to support them or help them through this rough patch? In this episode Amy digs into what you CAN do to work through supporting a spouse who is depressed, in a funk, dealing with loss, hating their job, or any number of trying issues that can tear couples a part. This episode will outline concrete steps you can take today that will help break through the helpless feelings and aid you in stepping into personal power and action. This pod explores:
The one question to ask your bummed out spouse that can potentially change EVERYTHING
How to figure out exactly what YOU need and how to actually ask for it
How to establish a collaborative plan with your partner
How to be sure to take care of YOU while you’re being a badass supporter
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.
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A slight caveat here… I soooo believe in apologizing. But, ONLY if you’ve made a mess. If you fucked up. But, here’s the thing… we don’t ONLY apologize when we’ve made a mess. We apologize for WHO. WE. ARE. Our choices. Our stances. Our decisions. And, one of the biggest ways this plays out in our lives is by over-explaining. Feeling as though we owe people some sort of rationale, explanation, or reason why we feel a certain way. Or, why we ARE a certain way.
