IIf you’re like most people, it is likely you have been taught (or learned) that speaking up for yourself somehow equals being a total dick or purposely trying to hurt someone. For whatever reason, many of us learn to silence our true thoughts, feelings, dreams, and desires in order to cater to everyone else’s thoughts, feelings, etc. We twist and contort and sell ourselves short so we can make everyone else happy, often ignoring our own intuition, needs, or values. In this episode, Amy discusses some of the most common fallacies about standing up for yourself and offers a 3-step process to taking a stand for the most important things in your life.
This pod explores:
What most people think is the “truth” about standing up for yourself
How to heighten your awareness around when you tend to not speak up for yourself
How to figure out what is really stopping you from owning your truth
How to switch your focus to you vs. “them”
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READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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IIf you took a look around you… to all of your close relationships, would they all be reciprocal? Do you have people in your world who constantly deposit into the “account” of your life or are they perpetually withdrawing? Do you ever feel like you give, and give, and give, and get nothing in return? This episode is all about looking at your relationships through a different lens… by looking at who is and who is not contributing to your life. Have a listen and learn exactly how to identify the “takers” in your life, where we usually get tripped up, and what to do about it.
This pod explores:
Perhaps the best metaphor EV-AH to analyze your relationships
Where we usually get tripped up in wanting the best from people in our lives
How to take an inventory of the people in your life and decide where you need to scale down
What “charity” has to do with the “takers” in your life
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
EEver wonder if your relationship desires and wants are just a pipe-dream? Ever see the occasional happy couple and think, “That’s really not very possible for most people.” Ever find yourself in a dating situation and think, “Well, I think this is as good as it’s going to get. I think the things I want are just me being nit-picky”?
If you’ve had these thoughts or notions about relationships, you are certainly not alone. In this week’s episode, Amy addresses a listener’s submission inquiring about what realistic expectations in a relationship look like, how to know if you are simply settling, and how to know if you asking way too much of someone.
This pod explores:
How to know if you want something for your relationship that just isn’t “realistic”
How to know what needs must be met by your partner versus another method
Why so many people choose to “settle” versus wait for a true soulmate connection
How to get clear about your personal relationship expectations and take a strong stand for them
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
TThe perspective or feeling of “not being enough” is perhaps one of the most common sentiments for those desiring confidence and happiness. Our self-worth will permeate and affect every single area of our lives from intimate partnerships to workplace environments, our relationships to our bodies to how we feel about our parenting. Feeling “not enough” will have us play small by accepting sub-par relationships, often returning to the same self-defeating patterns, and affects what we choose to “settle” for in all of our relationships. The great news is YOU get to define your worthiness, no one else, so have a listen to this episode and instantly change your perspective on self-worth.
This pod explores:
How our self-worth permeates every area of our lives
The rules we create about self-worth
Where to our ideas of worthiness comes from
How to shift your perspective around your worthiness
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
IIf you are a busy professional, student, or parent (or a blend), you surely know the slippery slope of being so caught up in your “to-do’s” that you easily lose sight of taking care of yourself. First, the workouts may slip, then maybe grabbing shit food instead of fueling your body correctly, then perhaps passing up fun social engagements, and one day you wake up and realize that your health is waning, your relationships aren’t stronger, and you’re working your ass off for… for what? For what exactly? To stay afloat? To be a kick-ass parent? To look great on paper? You are a better parent, employer, employee, student, wife, brother, EVERYTHING, if you make time to take care of yourself. Regularly. Often. Weekly. In this episode, Amy covers 4 self-care MUST-KNOWS to create a rich, joyful life… So you can be better for yourself… and in turn, better for others.
This pod explores:
What valuing your physical self really looks like
What taking care of your mind has to do with self-care
How to establish sacred time… and stick to it
How to scope out toxic self-care deterrents in your life
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
I just got back from an incredible experience with 22 other powerful women and I’ve been re-inspired and reminded of the life I CHOOSE to live. Along with two dear colleagues, I took a group of brave women on a cruise of a lifetime to re-create the women they desire to be in the world. It got me thinking much about a concept I have termed the Mediocrity Epidemic.
The Mediocrity Epidemic is something I think many of us are familiar with; Simply put, it’s living the life that is just “ok”. Nothing is really awful… But it’s sure not blissful. Perhaps it’s the dulling marriage or the dead-end job… Maybe it’s the lack of a thriving group of like-minded friends… or insufficient health you simply tolerate. Or, maybe things look great outwardly, but you struggle with truly finding happiness. Perhaps your relationship to YOU is the biggest struggle. The problem with this Mediocrity Epidemic is you can live with it forever. Mediocrity is tricky in the sense that it is rarely painful enough to spark change. It’s tolerable. And, for that reason, many people inadvertently choose it as a way of being… for a lifetime.
Change is what happens when it becomes too painful to stay the same.
And, usually that takes a crisis. But, what if you didn’t wait for a crisis to make a change? What if you tasted and relished every day of your life with a sense of ALIVENESS? Damn, that would be amazing, right? Here’s the place I think we get stuck. We don’t think it exists. We think, “Well, ‘good enough’ I can count on, so let’s just settle.” Perhaps you’ve found yourself in the same boat. One of my previous clients, Kathryn, felt like a life of aliveness wasn’t really possible and then completely proved herself wrong. Another dear client, Jasmine, felt the same. She also changed her life.
What shifted? They accessed the tools to change.
Let me ask you this: Have you ever seen a catchy Facebook or Instagram meme and thought, “That’s amazing. But, how the hell am I supposed to do that?” Maybe it’s about people-pleasing, working with fear, or changing your self-talk. Yeah, you aren’t alone. I am often baffled that we teach math, science, and physical education in schools, but NOWHERE do we teach children how to speak kindly to themselves, establish boundaries, and cultivate confidence. So, if these things don’t come easy, cut yourself some slack.
Here’s the good news. You absolutely, without a doubt, have the ability to live a life of radical joy and self-love and acceptance. Now. You are capable. Already. There is nothing wrong with you. You aren’t broken. And, you absolutely deserve more than mediocre. You deserve ALIVENESS.
The simple gateway from where you are now to the life you desire is your skill set. That’s it. Simply put, you just haven’t LEARNED all the skills and tools you need to dramatically change how you feel about yourself and in turn, create the life you deeply desire. You think Kathryn and Jasmine had any idea how to access their personal power? Or establish boundaries? Or find their confidence? Of course not! They simply LEARNED. And, implemented. And, everything changed. Everything.
Both these courageous women (and countless others) have worked through my Deep, Down, + Dirty one-on-one coaching program. The Deep, Down, + Dirty Program is my one-on-one coaching emersion, which walks you through a 12-week process to uncover and access radical self-love, worthiness, and self-acceptance. You’ll learn what it means to truly live life on YOUR TERMS and happiness will no longer be a dream. It will be your reality.
Because this guided coaching method is one-on-one, I am very limited to the amount of clients I am able to take on. Currently, I have 2 (maybe 3) openings and I would love to invite you to jump on the phone with me, if you feel this may be the skill set you need. Again, space is extremely limited, so if you feel the pull, let’s do this.
Regardless if one-on-one work is in the cards for us at them moment or not, I hope you know you are wildly WORTHY. Of aliveness. Of anything and everything your heart desires.
EEver find yourself saying, “As soon as I get a new job, then I’ll be happy” or “If I could just shed this extra weight, then I’ll really start living” or something similar? For many of us, we take the goals we want to achieve and collapse them with our self worth. When we do this, we allow ourselves to stay in a place of self-loathing UNTIL we accomplish our goals instead of allowing ourselves self-love through the journey. If you aren’t crazy about your current set of circumstances and you know it’s dramatically affecting your self-worth, this episode is just what you need. This pod explores:
How to figure out what meaning you’ve assigned to your goals
How to love yourself NOW, even if you are unhappy in your current situation
How to make your goals 100% in service of YOU
Self-talk tips to support your new relationship to the things you want to change in your life
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
If I were to ask you what the most important things in your life are… what would you say?
Probably your family, your spouse, hopefully yourself, maybe your spirituality, right?
But if I were to ask you how you spend most of your time/energy, what would you say?
Seriously… where do you spend most of your time?
Are the two categories aligned? Or even close?
Yeah… you aren’t alone. Quite a few years ago, I had an epiphany. I was working my ass off for a company that truly monopolized much of my time and energy. I was super caught up in the urgency of my work and all the demands. After a near burn-out and quarter-life crisis, I made a huge realization.
I realized that many of us cater to everything in our lives based off of how urgent it is presented to us.
You may have heard the phrase “The Tyranny of the Urgent”. What does that mean? Well, simply stated, it means that we naturally tend to the things in our lives that present themselves as urgent or as an emergency, as I like to call it. And what usually seems urgent? Probably shit that doesn’t really fall under “one of the most important things in my life” category, right? Oftentimes it’s work, obligations, other people’s urgency… bottom line is, we are constantly spending time and energy on things that aren’t really an emergency. In fact, it may be the exact opposite… shit that doesn’t even deserve our time and energy… it’s just wrapped up in a package that screams, “Take care of me first!! I’m an emergency!! I’m sooooo urgent!!”
So, let’s say you are working yourself to the bone, for your job that feels like a constant emergency and you get a call that your child or spouse has been in an accident. You would drop work immediately, right? Why? Because now your family is the emergency. Or maybe you are wrapped up in a volunteer program that monopolizes your time and all of a sudden your partner expresses they are on the way out of the relationship. Now your marriage/relationship has become the emergency, right? So here’s what I’m pointing to: why does it take emergency status to wake us up and actually allocate our time and energy to the things in our life that we would actually claim are the most important things to us? Shouldn’t it be the other way around? We’ve all heard the old adage… no one on their deathbed says “I wish I worked more.” They say, “Damn. I wish I was there for my kid more“ or “I wish I showed up in my marriage” or “I wish I took better care of myself.”
So, how does this apply to your own life?
Let’s get really clear on all this, shall we? Take out a piece of paper and write out the 4-5 things that you would say are THE MOST IMPORTANT things to you in your life. The things that you live and breathe for. For many, the things that you would actually die for. What are those things? Ok, so right next to that column, I want you to start thinking about how you spend your time/energy on an average day and write next to those things a percentage… a percentage of your time/energy you spend on these “most important” things. Now, still thinking about your average day, list out all the other shit that gets most of your personal resource. What are the percentages there? What’s out of alignment?
This small exercise can be hugely eye-opening. Now, I’m not saying quit your job and play with your kids all day. I understand that there is a bit of a give and take here, but I’m guessing that there is somewhere you could actually give a bit more of yourself to the shit that you actually really care about.
Ok, one more little exercise before I leave you to re-appropriate your time. Still looking at your average day, is there anything that monopolizes your time that you really don’t even like? Anything that you are taking on that you resent? Anything you are saying “yes” to simply out of obligation? What would your life look like if you only said “yes” to stuff that lit you up? Alright, so stop right now with “but, Amy, I can’t…” I’m not interested in can’t. It’s actually won’t. Start substituting “won’t” for “can’t” because that is what you are really saying.
Now, leave that all behind and look at what you CAN do.
What’s one small step you CAN take to better allocate your time and energy to shit that actually really matters to you? One place where you could say “no”? One thing you don’t want to do that you can eliminate? One way you can focus on the shit that really matters? What have you been treating as an emergency that really isn’t? What if you treated your happiness as the emergency?
Or, you could always just stay the same. [wah, wah]
Get. Fucking. On it.
P.S. **Oh, and I currently have 2 spots open for my one-on-one coaching program. Find out more details here.
IIf you have found yourself in a situation where you absolutely dread going to work each day, this episode is for you! Working in a soul-sucking J-O-B can dramatically affect your entire life… and usually not in a good way. In this week’s episode, Amy shares her personal experience of leaving a job that was no longer fulfilling for her and exactly what she did to craft her “escape plan”. You’ll learn about all the things you actually CAN do to foster change in this area. This pod explores:
How to craft and “escape plan” and how to work that plan
How to shift your perspective about your current job that will likely make things much easier
Where you may be sabotaging yourself in pursuit of your dream job
How to stay motivated in going after a new career path
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
AAt this time of the year everyone is super pumped and determined to create a completely different year than the one prior. It’s no surprise that many people fall of the bandwagon by February (if they’re lucky) and usually wait to get excited for any further goal-setting until the next January. If you find yourself on this slippery slope, there is probably a very good reason for that. In this episode, Amy highlights 10 ways you can ensure you set fail-proof resolutions and goals that get you exactly what you want this year. This one 30-minute episode could completely change how successful you are at accomplishing your deepest desires for the coming year. This pod explores:
Why being specific and quantifiable is IMPERATIVE for accomplishing goals
How the people in your life can make or break your success in the new year
Why you need to be 100% selfish when you set your new year goals
How to fuel yourself with empowering thoughts that support your journey
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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP
READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM? OF COURSE, YOU ARE!
Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.
It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome
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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!
COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE. JOIN THE CLUB.
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!
I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?
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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!
You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!
