If you have spent any time in the dating scene as of late, you know navigating those waters can be murky as hell. So what is one to do if you want to attract meaningful, rich, connected love in your life? Like, where the fuck are those folks? The ones who do the work on themselves, who understand their wants and needs, and who can actually use their god-damned words!!?
Since Iβve been hanginβ out with Mr. Smith for nearly a quarter century, I thought it would be helpful to dial up an expert who knows a thing or two (or forty) about dealing with todayβs dating landscape and how you can reclaim your personal power in such a vulnerable space. On this βtoolβ episode of the show, I dial up Veronica Grant, a dear friend and colleague who is a life and love coach working specifically with successful women who feel they have it allβ¦ except love. Hello!Β
Not only is Veronica a successful coach and author, but she works with the specific modality of Inner Child Work to help folks unlock the historical issues that may be thwarting love. Creep our conversation where Veronica shares how she uses Inner Child Work with all her clients and students and also shares how she works with The Rule of 3β¦ Meaning if you notice a pattern in your dating life that occurs three or more times, itβs probably time for some introspection. She also walks us through a series of analysis elements you can use to explore where things may be going awry.
This pod explores:
How Veronicaβs relationship with her body highly influenced the quality of partners she was attracting (and what she did to shift that)
How to work with The Rule of Three to examine detrimental patterns in your dating lifeΒ
Veronicaβs three-part process to work with your Inner Child and heal wounds that affect your ability to attract love
Understanding how the Law of Attraction can be toxic positivity and actually kinda gaslight-y⦠especially when it comes to love
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Veronicaβs work has been featured in O the Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Your Tango, and countless podcasts, including Let It Out and Mind Body Musings.
As someone who struggled in love herself and was tired of unsolicited and usually patronizing dating advice (even if well-meaning), she created the resources she wished were available before she met her husband. Through her binge-worthy podcast, free challenges, and coaching, sheβs here to shake up how you find love, even in our swipe right, swipe left world.
A few of her guilty pleasures include: psychoanalyzing TV and real life famous couples, hiking with her husband and pup, and sushi everything.
If I had a dollar for every time Iβve heard someone express feeling unworthy simply because they are single, I would have, like, so many dollars. Seriously. Our society has a way of glorifying coupledom that leaves many folks feeling like finding βthe oneβ is the sole/soul purpose of life. It doesnβt help that our media (Iβm looking at you, Disney) tells girls that they will magically be saved one day and that their lives can finally begin once they fall in love.
So, then we enter our teenage years being told that if a boy likes us (forgive the gender binary here), he will be mean to us, so no wonder we put up with bullshit from partners in our adult years. There has already been a message programmed that toxic behavior simply just means weβre broken and need to work harder to MAKE that person love us. But what if you could change how you view this entire narrative? Change how you view your singlehood? Change what you truly believe you deserve in your intimate partnership? Spoiler alert: you can.
This week, I dial up my gal, Giovanna Capozza, a recovering love addict, author, and coach who has literally written the book on breaking up with the addictive βlovesickβ behaviors you may be exhibiting in your dating life. If you find yourself shapeshifting to please your partner, ruminating over every little thing they do or say, or cancel all your plans to accommodate them, you wonβt want to miss this. And, you may actually be a little bit lovesick. Tune in and find out.
This pod explores:
How you might be using your singlehood as a βwaiting roomβ for your life to begin and what to do about it
The four primary attachment styles (yes, there are actually four!)
The very first assignment Giovanna suggests you start with if you want to alter your relationship with codependency
What love addictive behaviors look like and how our society and family of origin programs us to be love addicts
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Founder of Love Well Coaching, Author and recovering love addict, Giovanna Capozzaβs journey from lovesick to Love Well is a journey so many of us can relate with. Part spiritual Seeker. Part solo travel enthusiast. Part geeked out self- improvement and science junkie. Giovanna found comfort in exploring the globe on the search for herself. A lifetime of searching for βthe oneβ only led her to discover that finding him would mean finding herself… first.
A certified Coach and Mind Body Therapy Facilitator, Functional Medicine Practitioner, Homeopath, Yoga Teacher and Energy Healer, Giovanna coaches women everywhere to love themselves and the journey; not just the destination. Giovanna bought her first βrelationship bookβ at age 19, still loves a good rom-com and believes that happy endings arenβt found but made.Β
In the nearly fifteen years Iβve been working in the personal development space, I have to say that one of the most recurring challenges I see women face is reckoning with changes in their bodies and what that means for their sense of self-worth. Unless you were magically able to escape the messages we are inundated with in our patriarchal society, itβs likely that youβve had to navigate the constant, relentless, and radically unforgiving demand placed on our bodies to be perfect.Β
And, Honey, I am certainly not exempt. In recent years, Iβve personally delved into learning more about how our notions of beauty have come to pass, how βBig Dietβ ensures we all hate our bodies, and the truth about fatness and health. I am certainly no expert, but it has become abundantly clear that there are billion dollar industries profiting off our insecurities. And, many of them invent new insecurities for us. How generous.
In this episode, I look at some things you can actually DO, both internally and externally, to start cultivating a more loving relationship with your body. I also share some scripts of specific phrases you can say when you find yourself dealing with your bestie yammering about their new diet or if your aunt keeps making comments about your body at the family dinner. If youβve struggled to know what action you can take to feel more comfortable in your skin, youβll definitely want a listen. Grab a pen and paper because this one is loaded with tangible action steps and resources.
This pod explores:
Analyzing what you are consuming on a daily basis and how that influences how you feel about your body (Like, what ads you do constantly see on social media?)
How commenting on peopleβs bodies (even if you donβt know them or donβt really like them) can be a huge step backward for your body love journey
Some of my favorite activities to generate a more loving relationship with your body
A handful of scripts to shutdown inappropriate or offensive comments about your body, other peopleβs bodies, or diet culture altogether
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When I was a little girl, I remember my super evangelical, conservative mama telling me, βThereβs this sinful notion out there that if something feels good, you should do it.β Iβm sad to say this was one of the first messages I received that all things pleasurable were actually of the devil. I shit you not. Of course this message certainly applied to sex and drinking and other debachery [she says sarcastically], but this message was also super harmful around the pleasure derived from food. From enjoying delicious meals and treats. I mean one of the seven deadly sins is gluttony, for fuckβs sake.
You may have grown up with a similar sentiment around the morality of food. Not necessarily that Jesus would be after you, but think about how many times youβve indulged in a decadent cake or delicious ice cream and have said something like, βOh, Iβm being so bad.β Or if you opt for the kale over the cupcake, you get to label yourself as βgoodβ. Listen, food has nothing to do with morality and the idea that we deny ourselves a basic human pleasure like the taste of yummy food is incredibly harmful and furthermore, ruminating on what our bodies look like takes up waaaaay too much mental space. Like, how fucked up that we spend soooo much time and energy worried about our food choices and our body image.
On this weekβs show, I dial up my pal, Summer Innanen, who is a body image coach and mentor who helps us look at the way weβve been taught to constantly pursue thinnessβ¦ at nearly all costs. Sometimes itβs a cost of pleasure, but other times itβs incredibly damaging to our mental health. Hands raised, amiright!? In this episode, we explore how the goal of βliking how you lookβ may be causing you more harm than good, how fixating on diet struggles can hinder us from addressing deeper traumas, and where to start if you canβt imagine ever having a loving relationship with your body.
This pod explores:
The connection between food and pleasure and how many of us have been taught that pleasure is a bad word
Summerβs tactics for setting intentions around your health that have nothing to do with what you look like
How weβve equated βtaking care of ourselvesβ with thinness and how thinness is a inaccurate gauge of health
How to adopt an additive (versus reductive) perspective around your body image, health, and food choices
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I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin’ some gems (um, like, who couldnβt use some new tools?) please send them toΒ THIS FANCY INFO PAGEΒ on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.
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This podcast is sponsored by LetsGetChecked and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get a whoppinβ 30% off their first test kit of choice attrylgc.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!!
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Summer Innanen is a professionally trained coach specializing in body image, self-worth and confidence. She helps people all over the world to stop living behind the numbers on their scales through her private and group coaching at summerinnanen.com.
She is the best-selling author of Body Image Remix, host of the podcast Eat The Rules, and creator of You, On Fire β an online group coaching program dedicated to helping people get free from body shame. She also co-runs the Body Image Coach Certification program helping anti-diet professionals learn to work with clients around body image.Β
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As a leadership coach and master hypnotherapist, I help Gen X women leaders crush burnout by owning their worth and setting fierce boundaries (aka stop taking all that shit!).
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