Every so often, I do a special episode of the podcast that focuses on specific questions submitted by the PODiance. On this week’s episode, I tackle three listener submissions that you may find helpful.

Recently a listener wrote in to the show, asking what to do when you find yourself feeling stuck. You know that racket, no? Stuck in a relationship… stuck in a soul-sucking job… stuck in a friendship that doesn’t serve you. The list goes on.

At the start of every year, it’s likely you get pumped up and excited to make some serious change. You decide on a handful of things that you are GOING to conquer this year, god-damn-it! But what actually makes those goals a reality?

We grow up buying into the idea that we are responsible for everyone else’s emotions. As we move into adulthood, that often looks like NOT bringing up important topics to your spouse, overlooking offensive comments from family, or allowing coworkers to walk all over you.

If you’re like most people, you have an overwhelming sense of excitement and ambition come the new year. Also like most people, perhaps you hit Jan gang-busters-style, but when Feb comes around you have slowly begun to lose steam, fervor, and action.

You land your perfect job. And then your inner voice tells you that you are horribly unqualified and everyone is going to find you out.
You enter a super healthy relationship with an awesome partner. And then your inner voice tells you how damaged you are…

Ever feel like you’ve checked off aaaaall the things, all the boxes, all the accomplishments and you look around and you’re still like, “Why do I still feel like shit!!?” If you’re like most, you’ve bought into the idea that the perfect husband/wife/body/career/baby/pair of shoes will surely bring you happiness.

   .   ______ ver find yourself desiring deep, rich connections with your partner or your friends and family but have a hellova time letting your guard down? Maybe you even find yourself craving deep intimacy but you’re absolutely terrified to...

   .   ______ PODiance member wrote to the show and wanted to know how to figure out what to do... when you just don’t know what to do… aka Making Tough Decisions. I mean... how on earth do you know if you’re making the right choice or not? And,...

  .   ______ ind yourself dreading holiday functions with your family because it’s only a matter of time until your mom pesters you about why you don’t go to church anymore… or you aunt gives you shit for not having kids or not being married… or...