Mailbag 7.0: Boundary Edition – Speaking Up When You’re Offended + Ending Toxic Relationships EP#292

Mar 17, 2019




EEver have that experience where you realize aaaaaall the things you wish you would have said in a conversation earlier in the day? Or even a week ago? Like, maybe you were offended by something a co-worker said, but you chose to let it slide, and now, upon reflection, you’re totally beating yourself up for not saying something in the moment. I mean… you know you should have spoken up, but what do you do about it now? Just feel like shit about yourself? Um, no.

Recently a listener reached out the show expressing her challenge with this specific issue. She was curious if there were any ways she could catch herself in the moment instead of dealing with “delayed regret”. Turns out, there are a number of things you can do, which I dig into on this week’s episode.

Additionally, another listener posed a question about how to have the tough convo with a family member you’ve deemed too toxic and abusive to stay connected to. Do you just say, “Hey, you’re a bit too abusive and toxic, so I’m out.”? Not exactly. But, not to fear, in this week’s mailbag episode, I share my favorite tips and tools for handling these tricky boundaries and how to speak up in a way that kicks the guilt to the curb and leaves you feeling confident and proud AF.

This pod explores:

  • How to start speaking up even if you’re terrified and your track record isn’t stellar
  • My favorite way to “catch yourself in the moment” so you can speak up when it really matters
  • How to know if you need to kick someone to the curb or if you actually need to have a heartfelt conversation instead (You may be surprised at my answer!)
  • Three steps to establishing boundaries that will have you speaking up in no time!




Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!

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It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome




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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?

It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.


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