Ever find yourself sacrificing what you want so you can cater to the needs of others? Like, you are exhausted from your day and desperately need some rest, but your bestie really wants you to come over and support her through (yet another) argument with her partner. Or, maybe you find yourself sacrificing what you want at work because you’ve convinced yourself you’re not “good enough”. These are classic examples of self-abandonment: essentially leaving your own wants, needs, and desires on the table. For a whole slew of reasons.

This sort of behavior doesn’t spring up overnight. Often we shape this pattern by learning methods of survival when we are young, through messages we receive about what a “good woman” should be, and through our societal and patriarchal influences.

On this week’s show, I was able to dial up an expert on all things self-abandonment. Dené Logan is a therapist and mindfulness coach who specializes in offering tools for reclaiming the self we’ve been conditioned to abandon through our lives. In this raw and intimate interview, we discuss how we’ve been taught to leave ourselves behind, where that pull comes from, and what we can do to start shifting it. Dené also powerfully explains how our obsession with masculine energy and characteristics tends to leave us empty and slamming the door on ourselves.

If you find yourself constantly concerned about the opinions of others, or leaving yourself on the back burner, this episode is a must-listen. Get ready to make yourself important and access some serious inner belonging.

This pod explores:

• The two needs all humans are born with and how those needs affect our tendency to abandon ourselves
• Dené’s favorite tool to start combatting the instinct to make everyone else happy at the cost of our own happiness
• Understanding masculine and feminine polarity and how that disrupts our ability to come to our own rescue
• What it really means to find “inner belonging” even if you’re like, “Yeah, right.”

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Additional Resources:

• Grab your seat at my workshop!! FOR FREE!!
• Are you a chronic self-abandoner? from NAMI.org
• Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski PhD, Emily Nagoski, et al
• Untamed, by Glennon Doyle

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THIS WEEK’S ‘dIal an EXPERT’ GUESTIE

Dené Logan is a therapist, a mindfulness coach, a yogini, a tenacious wisdom seeker and a California soul through and through. In her work with clients, she is known for her nurturing presence and authenticity. She specializes in offering tools for reclaiming the self we’ve been conditioned to abandon through our lives, moving through anxiety, understanding our addictive patterns and communicating more effectively in our relationships. She is passionate about facilitating group immersive experiences and retreats. Dené is also co-host of the podcast, Cheaper than Therapy. Connect with Dené on Insta.

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