[DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#410 – Self-Abandonment: Dealing with Codependency with Vanessa Bennett

Sep 12, 2021

Tell me if any of this sounds familiar: You can’t stop ruminating about a conversation you had earlier in the week and you keep replaying the situation over and over and over… worrying about what was or wasn’t said. Or, you start to have a complete out-of-body if you ever sense that you aren’t “needed” by someone… a family member, boss, friend, whoever. Or maybe you find yourself making sure that everyone else is okay so damn much that you have no idea what you truly like, value, or enjoy. If any of those concepts ring a bell, you may have a bit of codependency on your hands. 

Now, before you freak out and self-diagnose… It’s important to know that we are all a bit codependent in some way. And, it’s not always a bad thing. On this week’s pod, I’m thrilled to dial up Vanessa Bennett, a psychotherapist and codependency coach who shares a shit-ton of info on how to identify various codependent behaviors, why we tend to do these behaviors to begin with, and what we can do to shift them.

Vanessa sheds light on the connection between codependency and narcissism and the ways we use maladaptive coping mechanisms to keep ourselves safe from narcissistic parents, partners, colleagues, and friends. Have a listen as we unpack what’s truly going on with someone on the narcissistic spectrum and what you can do to preserve your personal power when dealing with such individuals. This convo was so packed with deep and delicious nuggets of wisdom, I will be tuning in over and over again myself. Enjoy!

This pod explores:

  • Common symptoms of codependency (Spoiler alert: You WILL see yourself in some of these!)
  • The difference between codependency, enmeshment, and interdependency and why all those descriptions may not matter all that much
  • How codependency relates to narcissism and what you need to watch out for
  • The first step to take in order to shed codependent behaviors




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Vanessa Bennett gravitated toward yoga, meditation, and therapy after feeling the effects of a decade grinding in the New York City advertising world. As a former Producer and Marketing Manager for global powerhouses like Coca-Cola, Unilever, and P&G, she realized she desperately needed to find a way to increase focus, decrease stress, and achieve more balance. She shifted her focus in life through becoming a therapist and deepening her study of yoga and meditation in order to help others bridge work fulfillment with leading meaningful and fulfilling lives and relationships.

Currently, she lives in Los Angeles and works as a Psychotherapist and as both a Mindfulness and Codependency Coach. She leads retreats and corporate workshops, teaches a series of classes on Understanding the Codependent Effect on Relationships and is the co-host of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast as well as the It’s Not Me, It’s You Podcast. She also works as a consultant with entrepreneurs, brands, and companies who are looking to launch into the world of wellness, integrate wellness into their existing culture, or who want to approach growth or projects in a more mindful and soul-conscious way.

Find out more about Vanessa at vanessabennett.com and connect with her on Insta and TikTok.


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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) speak up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?

It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.


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